you fuck your best friend? what happens when you fuck your best friend 4 times on 4 separate occasions? does it mean your more than friends? does it mean youre automatically exclusive? does it mean you're now considered "fuck buddies"? does it mean nothing? hes not the type to talk about stuff like this, and neither am i, i just dont know what any of this is supposed to mean haha. like, do i have a right to be upset if he were to hook up with someone else? or since we never said anything was exclusive does that still give us each the right to fuck whoever we want?
You should probably get past the whole not talking about stuff thing, before you have a misunderstanding that ruins everything. If the guy is your best friend then a romantic relationship should be considered or at least discussed if you're already fucking. Whatever you do I suggest making sure you are both on the same page as quickly as possible.
well the thing is, at the end of august im going to college anyway, and i definitely wouldnt want to be in a relationship then. hes talked openly about other girls to me, but i have to say i feel weirdly jealous when he hangs out with other girls... im not really sure why because i dont like him THAT much. like its more just fun for me. but last night when we hooked up we were totally blowing off this other girl who ive always figured he'd had a little side thing with this whole time, but after we did our thing he was being really mean to her for no reason, like not telling her why we blew her off and just being rude in general which was strange...
if you guys haven't really talked about it and are just having sex it seems like you'd be just fuck buddies
This is often why people don't fuck their best friends. But if you two really are best friends, communication should not be a problem for you. If it is, then the sex has damaged your friendship by creating this huge thing that you can't talk about. You should work on saving your friendship. Try to understand that whatever you feel from one moment to the next is just whatever you happen to feel, and in the next moment you'll feel something else again. Be aware of your feelings, respect them. But don't let them control you. Don't even let them dominate a conversation. Just focus on your love for your friend, and talk and listen.
i think its more like he doesnt feel theres anything we need to talk about... our friendship is still fine, i mean, this has been over the course of a few months and we've hung out A LOT more since the first time we hooked up but we dont hook up very often... i think if anything its made our friendship stronger. the only thing that worries me is that i think im getting a little too attached to him, like im really trying to just keep our friendship and all the sex stuff separate from each other, i dont want to fall into that mindset that i should be above any other friend of his in his mind or whatever. also i'll add that every single time we've been drunk and/or stoned. i have NEVER hooked up with him sober
yeah i second that you should try and back away since you're getting attached, it doesn't seem like he has feelings (from what you've told us) more then just sexual
