So I was just about dumped today. By my love's friend. I asked her If I could talk to her about what the deal was with the girl I like, and she just said that I should just stay friend with her and nothing more, because I'd just get hurt. a boyfriend... wasn't that hard to guess... Explains why she never makes any effort at all to talk to me. to some it up. This girl was my world. I was just on myspace, and happened to come across some old messages that she had sent me from november, and I just can't help but feel sad as hell reading them. I don't know how to describe the feeling. Part of me is happy reading them, and how they sounded so heartfelt and enthusiastic, and the other part of me is just sad, and wondering what I did wrong for this to end. Reading those messages was just too much... Nostalgia really, really is, a bitch.
You seem very distressed over this girl. I am not going to ridicule you or say you should feel wrong for feeling the feelings you do. Everyone has their reasons for their feelings. I absolutely understand that you do not want anyone telling you to "get over it" and feel like they will never understand how exactly hard that is to do. I've been in your situation. I am just going to say that you should try making an effort to start caring about yourself a little more. She is having a fun life while you dwell over her. I know you deeply care about her, but this is unhealthy. You may not be able to shake the feeling of attachment to her, especially at first, but keeping yourself busy will greatly help. Don't visit her Myspace, Facebook, and whatever else. Keep yourself busy. Spend time with people you are close to, or find hobbies to do on your own. Try to look for hidden talents or interests you never knew you had. This kept me sane when I was in your place. The most important thing, as I've said, is do not look at her social networking sites, profiles, blogs, or anything else. That may be difficult to do, but you will drive yourself insane if you do not find something else to keep yourself busy with. Looking at her information is only going to prolong the feelings. Also, whatever you do, do not find someone to try to replace her with. Just focus on yourself for a while. Pretend like you are the only one in the world for the time being. You will be surprised how much doing so will help .
