Unexpected relief

I woke up to find myself thinking about him this early in the morning. After last night, I had a reason to..

I got an IM from one of his good friends (on his facebook) when I was going to get milk. I knew it was his friend from the way he typed and I knew NAte was out with his friend, John

Andy and I started talking. He says "Im trying my best to get him to ask you out. I see you guys talking/texting every day and I See him and how he smiles and how happy he is" This is all news to me because for a while I thought he lost interest in me and he told me that he was more than interested and that he was a shy person to actually make the move

He goes on to tell me how he thinks we're perfect for another, that I am just like nate in so many ways and he needs a girl like me..

my confidence is boosting up the wall,,I call up nate to double check that he wasnt him, and it wasnt, I heard that he was on the highway heading back home

I tell him the concerns I had rather I should move on or not and Andy ensures me to stay and stick with him because in his words "men are dumbasses with the women they like...everything flies over their head and they dont know how to react...and also nate is not fully hip on the dating thing" I could obviously see that, I flirted with him several times and hinted and it goes right over his head, that also made me think he wasnt interested

but he kept on on how he talks about how awesome I am when they're working together and he smiles and gets shy every time he sees a text from me

he said that he keeps pushing nate into asking me out for andys 2 year anniversary party this saturday...actually asked me if i was doing anything saturday, andy wants to make this happen. as we were rambling, I get a text from nate and him asking about saturday...I of course agreed to go

Im nervous indeed. his friend andy seems pretty awesome and thats my main focus..if I could get along with him AND his friends, Im set and confident and andy who is pushing nate just to date me, gives me more confidence. Im nervous because his friends are married and hes been married, ive been engaged but doesnt compare obviously and I dont know how to act around them..Im a goof ball at heart and makin me nervous that I may have to act differently cause they're married and whatnot. I know it sounds silly

 

Would say relax, and nate is nervouse enough for the both of ya, so he has that department covered =P.

No reaction to hints doesn't mean anything, He probably doesn't see them. He is more focused on not fumbleing it sounds like.

 

i think you worry too much about men and relationships stacy, focus on yourself, the rest will just happen naturally.

 

thats what his friend said. its been a while since hes been dating, as for me too so yes naturally i am nervous because I get this different feeling with him and I really enjoy it. Its so mature on so many levels

Mary, ill try and keep my cool...which i probably will. Just the thought is exciting, I havent felt this way in over a year and its what Ive been looking forward to

 

well tonight is the big night Im excited and not nervous anymore. I havent been all day

ugh nevermind. I just got a text from him saying he has to stay at work.

 

Lol, That sucks ;/. Hopefully he will get off soon

 

lol We're hopin that. Hes pissed as all hell. Im trying to cheer him up but its not workin

 

Well hope he does, Best bet is to see what you can do after he gets off. Least then there will be something to get through work for.

 

he didnt get off til 3am. lol and plus I had a bad toothache all night so we gotta make another plan

but I got asked for a date tonight lol by a guy I met at a party

 

3am? O o .. yeah that kinda puts a dent into things lol, and the toothache thing kinda sucks :/.

My job is similar to being as bad with hours, but not that extensive.. have had the 3am thing twice but made sure to clamp that down. Though still normal to go in in the morning and get out 8-10pm ~ dureing a busy part of the year. But I can normally see whats up ahead. other then that days off are the thing to work with.

One trick I do keep up is the perception my Cell Phone is completly lost/off/not working <add reasoning on why reaching me by this is completly null>. So I very rarely get the "Headaches", "we need you to come in" type calls =D... Trust me the other way around is a nightmare =P.

 

Update:'


We havent met yet. Hes been working even more and hes becoming stressed out about it. He says he needs the money and I said but what for? I mean you never go out and you have 3 jobs, you should be at least okay and I find out that hes paying his ex's car payments.....

Yes I get pissed. I got pissed on how he asked to help out and im pissed that she agreed. he pays 352 a month for the payment...on HER car. I dont know how long its been going on but I told him it needs to stop. Its bullshit that you're paying for her stupid ass car. He said hes actually stopping every thing by the ened of the month and I told him that wasnt good enough, that he needs to stop it NOW. He tells me that shes already engaged..been engaged and I just wanted to go crazy on him but I Told him to do this now because its pushing me away

she still has some shit over at his house. I told him call her up and they have a thing called a storage room...USE IT...and if she copes an attitude, throw her shit away

she has his balls and his dick. and he needs to grow a pair. Hes finally getting it and ending everything now

ugghhhh

 

I think he purposefully drowned himself in work due to the depression of the split up. He has three jobs, One is probably full time and well paying while the other two are part time junk would be my guess. Unless all three are retail part time jobs then I could probably see lots of bills.. Though him paying stuff for his ex kinda leads to he doesn't have money issues.

I had a job a few years back, that worked me everday it could. 12-14hrs a day at that. Had tons of money.. Literally had more then i could spend. Though then again I had zero Time to go anywhere and spend it Lol. My first day off was complete sleep and my second day (if had) was realy pointless to do much. =P

Depending on how he is about "credit score" understanding if he is the signer of the car maybe a reasoning for it. But in any event sounds like she is useing him for as much as possible :/. Would defenetly advocate remolding and removeing her junk from the house to get him to move on from that perception of the place. and see there is much better ahead

 

You're right on purposely drowning himself in work. Again, hes just like me. When stressed, I start working a lot to keep my mind off and thats what he is doing...his other 2 jobs are kinda just there...other weekends he works at pizza hut and during his free time he works on computers.

I dont know about dating now. Hes acting real strange and too shy and planning things on his day off to hang with his friend, he normally hangs with and his friend tells me to be patient with him...he has a lot of walls to break down and im trying but I cant babysit someone this much but again, what is there for me? other jerks to meet? Hes a very nice guy...someone Ive been looking for. I just have a lot of work to do with him :/

 

That sucks, No sure why he wouldn't go out with you on his days off. Will just be his loss if wanting to put everything else first. Guess would say don't do to much till you actually get to meet him.

Putting work into it is not always a bad thing, but got to judge wether he wants to move on from what he is doing first :/

 

I believe that hes just really shy. he needs a kick in the ass or else itll never get done. and Im kicking him now. He knows he really wants to meet me, he doesnt know how to approach it without stumbling. Hes consentrating too hard on not stumbling.

I mentioned it to him yesterday... "do you really want to meet me?" nate - Yes and i said then meet me, stop putting it off otherwise you're going to lose me

i just gave it to him like that. then last night i told him how i felt and i said i feel like im boring to you and hes like why? why would i become bored with you? dont think that" and lemme tell ya...i dunno if that was his attempt to be sweet or he didnt mean it to be romantic but it made me smile

guys

 

The ever more reason to make him stumble =P

Though the only thing to do is figure on meeting on his time off, and push for it. Waiting forever is not an ideal thing :/. But on the bright side, if that shy, only means the first date will be completely straight ... His back and that pillar over there will be at the same angle =P, life only follows this one perfect line ... That zigzag over there is a problem. =P

Sounds like you talk alot though, so being bored is not there otherwise you'd call and then 5 days later the return call will come in O o.

 

woah am i doing something wrong?

 

No I don't think your doing anything wrong, Sorry if sounded that way.

 

oh ok lol i guess i read it wrong

 

If your keeping contact with him alot, that means he is defenetly interested. Just have to push a bit to see if you can meet him on time off from work.

Though not sure why he wouldn't be all for doing that.