SO I THINK IM GOIN TO AMSTERDAM!!!.. but theres a cacth

i didn know where to put this thread...
in a relantionship place or what..

so i decided on stoners lounge.. because its Amsterdam.



anyyways


my boyfriend wants me to go to amsterdam with him... arty:

but only because he doesnt trust himself to go with his friends.. the "temptation" of them prostitutes would be too much..
WTF!!!

so im goin to babysit him?????
i wanna go , i really wanna go... but he doesnt want me there just for company .. he just wants me there cause he doesnt trust himself!!
and if he doesnt trust himself how am i suppose to trust him??

i dont know what to think

edit: i spelt catch wrong dam

 

go. I'm sure it'll be fine with you in the same city, so he'll be able to trust himself. You can have a great time without babysitting just because he'll feel better with you there, and you'll love that it's an amazing city.

 

yeah i really wanna go...
but he just pissed me off
but i think my sister is goin with her boyfriend (her boyfriend and my boyfriend are friends)
so hopefully... if i do go... itl be fuunn

 

why would you pass up Amsterdam.....have mad sex on WEED :sifone:

 

Kick him in the face and go have a good time. I can't properly describe how much i love this city, so you should probably just experience it.

 

i dont wanna pass up amsterdam... its just, the reason i got invited kinda sucks

yes i think i will kick him in the face :rofl:

and then get really stoned

 

Go and enjoy it, make sure you hold onto your return ticket, and don't waste your time babysitting him. If he does do something like go to a hooker, you will know forever you can't trust him...

When I hear things like that, I assume that the person asking (for company to 'help' them behave), is looking for an excuse to misbehave... ie.. "I told you to watch me, it's not my fault, its yours"

 

yeah your right...

jus pissis me off yano, after 3 years and i still can't trust him, worse, he cant trust himself???
thats just what got to me.

yeah il think i'll go, enjoy myself with my sister and my friend

if he does anything stupid.. he can fuk off ..

my aunties friend went over with her boyfriend, and when she woke up in the middle of the night her boyfriend was gone.... down to a hooker

he was an asshole

 

well, I've said this in a couple of different posts about trusting people. If he does something stupid and breaks your trust, consider yourself lucky, it could have been 20 years down the road.

I have a friend who was (she thought) happily married for almost 4 decades, thought everything was great, until she found messages from one of her husband's girlfriends. When confronted, his response was to beat the crap out of her. Needless to say, she filed for divorce afterwards... but she said what you did many many times during the first while after it happened... "after almost 40 years, and I can't trust him"...

 

thats terrible
girlfriends .......
i suppose il see what happens

 

seriously.... who really cares if he does fuck up... if he does, move on, beyond that.... you're going to AMSTERDAM... have fun.... lol

 

wooo im goin to amsterdam arty:

haha
im only young, yes il be heart broken... but il move on im sure if anything happens

 

i don't think you should be too bent out of shape about it, and commend the guy on his honesty...

think about it like this, he couldve gone, without you, slept with a bunch of hookers came back and slept with you, possibly passing somethin on, and you wouldnt know until it burns when you pee....

in a roundabout way it was a caring and considerate request and i totally think you should take him up on it....

GO!!!

you're crazy not to, have the time of your life and fuck him silly so he doesnt think about what fun he couldve had otherwise.

you'll be glad you did

 

your right thanks

 

i didnt read entire thread before posting, only the op actually....glad to see you're going:cheers2:

 

Okay, commend him for his honesty...

He has an opportunity to go to amsterdam, instead of saying, Hey, wanna come to amsterdam? We can have an awesome time together. He says "come with me or I'll fuck other women...

What's next? If the, "do this or I'll betray you" argument works, imagine where it leads...

 

no need to read more into it than there is.....you're right, he's a dick for wording it the way he did, but at least he was honest...i agree that he seems like a cocksucker for puttin it on her like that, but if she can't or won't see it that way and still chooses to go, that's her prerogative

 

i know thats what annoyed me

im still guna go...

its just in the long run, about the trust thing...

cause i dont wanna stop him havin boys weekends and stuff...

i dont wanna be that type of girlfriend...

but, he'll cheat on me if he has boys weekends???

 

lol, oh I definately think she should go to amsterdam... the only part I wouldn't do is the hanging around with him once we got there...

thats why I said she should hold onto the return ticket

 

To the OP. My biggest suggestion would be to talk to him about it and express your concerns. Talking to us is fine and advice is cheap. If he does not know how you feel then your relationship has other problems then the thought if him spending time with a hooker. Maybe this is his way of reaching out to you. Tell him how you feel and then go and have fun. Good Luck.