Well, this is what happens: There's a guy who I like a lot since a few months ago. We started a friendship because we both are fans from 60's music and have some other things in comoon. I really like everything about him and he has a lot of confidence with me. He has even told me that he's kinda depressed about love because his last relationship finished because she was cheating on him after almost 7 years, he even says that there's nobody who can see how he really is and appreciate him for that. Nobody can imagine that I can see that and I really like him. There's not a day I don't think of him and try to support him as much as I can and everything. Well, as you can see, maybe it is just a matter of me, for showing him how I feel becuase we both are single and free, but there's something between: I'm 16 and he's 29 There's some people telling me that age doesn't really matter, and I can say I think the same, but I'm not too sure... WHAT SHOULD I DO!!!???
Can you say Pedifile??? If you were 29 and he was 43, no issue at all... Please take my advise... let it go and just keep a happy thought about it. You will not regret that. Voice of experience here. I am 14 years older than my wife. I understand your whole situation. Don't take this as mean or bad, but see this for what it really is - you are 16!! You have plenty of time to explore many people. Be careful of this situation.. Good luck.
i disagree, and i know most people will hate what i have to say and flame me forever or whatever, but that is cool because i only come here like 4 times a year. but age absolutely makes a difference. it makes a difference because people go through life stages, if you are in the same stage of life then it would be fine, but if you are in completely different stages, it will never work. i have seen it and lived it so i'm pretty convinced. i mean i could spit out a bunch of statistics for you, but people don't like stats and ignore them most of the time anyway because they think they can 'beat the odds'. whatever. i am not saying you might not have a connection, you very well might. there are plenty of people we come in contact with in life that we completely connect with on some level. that doesn't mean they are meant for us to have a romantic relationship with. and contrary to what some might tell you, this does not mean he is a pedophile. he could be, and it is kinda different, but again it all depends on the situation. when i was 19 I dated (by dated i mean i went on 3 dates- that's how us old people did dating back in the day) a guy who was 38. we had fun, liked the same music, he got me into bars, etc. we read each other's poetry and had a couple of kisses, and that was about it. while we were really attracted to each other, it could never ever work. his daughter was closer to my age than he was (13). he had lived through everything that i was going through... college, getting my own place, etc. i'm just sayin' i think it is best for you to just remain friends with this person. i don't think you will regret it.
Is he interested in you? He may not want to date a 16 year old. It's important to be able to relate to day to day life with each other. His priorities are likely work (full time) bills, long-term investments. You on the other hand have high school as a main priority. You're currently living a life he has already lived-- that life ended 11 years ago. He has independence but you have parents that still have authority over you. Would your parents be cool with this? I'm not saying your parents can choose who you date, but I think it'd be difficult for him to be in a relationship with someone underage. Your parents could hate him, make him feel like he's taking advantage of you. Not to mention his friends, etc. If you were to become a big part of his life he'd have to be open about it and it'd probably bring a whole lot of shit into his life, maybe even the law. Do you want that for him? He could go to jail. I understand you care about him, but think about this: you may feel he's the best choice for you, but are you the best choice for him? How did you meet him?
He's 29, you're 16 You've been an adult 2 yrs. (more or less / still not completely done) He's been an adult 15 yrs. (by the same count) He's been an adult 7 times longer than you have. I think that's a significant age difference.
Don’t make a move ! You’re 16 - you still need to fully physically develop. Your hormones are running crazy and feelings are intense and heightened at that age. Wait two to three years (legal age) and see how you feel then. If you feel the same for him then, then go for it. I know a few years sounds long, but here’s a short term test you can do in the mean time: Give yourself a few months (and I mean 8 to 12 at lest) to see if your feelings have altered towards him. This will also give you the chance to see is there are any changes to your friendship. And if he’s any sort of a decent guy then he would want you too wait. Like some of the other posts here have mentioned… being under aged involved with a grown man can seriously complicate both your lives as well as the lives of those around you !
eek. that gap isnt even in the same generation. Id say atleast wait 3 years. I mean think about instincts here.. in a few years he'll be wanting to settle down and have kids. (if he's not weirdo lol) are you ready for that? or do you want to advance in higher eduction/career?
