Ladies, how long does it normally take you? I feel like I have a problem. When I'm by myself, it takes me a minimum of 10 minutes (rarely) but usually over 20-30 to reach a clitoral orgasm. This is taking into account that I get distracted and end up putting fingers inside every so often, so it's not consistent. Just now I put on some porn and tried to see how long it would take if I just rubbed it without stopping, and it was 10 minutes. Anyway, it feels like I need extremely specific things to come clitorally. I need a perfect balance of pressure and speed and this changes throughout the session. I wonder how it can ever be possible for someone else to do this for me. I rub my clit usually from the left or right side - never head on. As a result, I've never had a clitoral orgasm given to me by a man and it makes me sad. It's pretty much my life dream in the sex department to be able to orgasm from oral sex and I just feel like it'll never happen. That said, it's extremely easy for me to have g-spot orgasms from penetration. In certain positions, I can have them once every 2 minutes or so. I guess I'm really backwards. Any suggestions? Are any other women like me? Please say yes, I feel alone.
I'm pretty specific with myself, too, but if you're willing to show your partner how you like it and they're willing to listen/try, then it can be done. anything is possible! I've had partners get me off with techniques that I didn't try for myself personally so it's possible that you could too. have you tried sittin on their face? that always makes me cum. haha as far as time...if i'm goin for speed, like a minute or two max. haha but some people take longer and there's nothing wrong w/it, you're not weird or backwards. some of us can orgasm more easily that's all i guess?
My wife is like you - it takes very specific techniques and differnt levels of pressure/speed/angle of approach at different times. After 14 years I am pretty damn good at it though, so theres definitely hope. And like DazedGypsy said, maybe something will surprise you... I've discovered lately for example that I can skip most of the latter steps and just suck her clit really hard while tickling it with my tongue and she will cum buckets in no time.
I can rub the head of my penis and produce a male version of a clitorus orgasm. But it takes a long time. It must be similar with women. It's easier to get off with something inside you.
this is wrong for me. i can only get off with clitoral stimulation. the men i've been with have no clue what they are doing. girls are better at it, but nobody can please me like myself. i can get myself in about 10 minutes.
i've never used one in my life.... i could probably do less time with more effort, but that kind of takes the joy out of it....the 2 minuters are only for when i'm in a hurry or in a possible to be caught situation....otherwise i like to stretch it out a bit longer.
i am sure seizedbyanger, in a few years when the guys you are with are more experienced you will find what you want.
im a lot like you. the only thing i would add is that my clit is so sensitive, that when it is directly stimulated it often hurts rather than feeling good. i do cum from oral sex though, but my partner is amazing at it. if you have a partner, suggest that they buy an oral sex book to learn different techniques. also, have you tried the rabbit or a similar clit stimulating vibrator? they are amazing, and they can make me cum much harder and faster than i can do on my own.
