Fucking...I dont even know. Help?

My mom is a docter, very prim and proper and well put together. ANd I suppose I havent been an amazing kid. But.

Im a lesbian, not out, because she found out I kissed a girl and kicked me out for two months. Recently, my girlfriend moved to North Carolina, and mom got suspicious. I got my cell phone back for a week (literally, had it taken away for seven months because of the kiss thing) and then she takes it and calls her and says that if she ever talks to me again she'll press charges and shit. I mean, I know she really cant. But..I dont know. My girl got a trac phone and registered for my area code so I can talk to her sometimes. But Im fucking tired. Im not that horrible of a kid. And when I tried to say that to my mom she was like "Thats the same thing as me saying I dont beat you, so Im the best mom in the world." No it isnt. So: I dont get a cell, drivers permit, liscence, or independence whatsoever until Im eighteen.

I dont know.
Someone help?

 

Holy shit, your mom's crazy. That's like a form of child abuse. Putting somebody on restriction for kissing another person. Not to mention its racist to boot.
I'd probably have a talk with her and tell her if she doesn't quit doing ridiculous, childish things such as this that you'll have to call CPS. Thats what I'd do. I don't put up with Bull Shit like that.

 

Yeah, parents aren't allowed to punish their children for being gay. Tell someone at school that you need the number for CPS. That is VERY wrong. I hope you get though it.

Peace

 

if mom already has kicked you out, why on earth did you go back,, she obviously doesnt give a shit bout your welfare to have kicked you out already, move back out... problem solved

n didymus, how is it racist??? just curious lol

 

Another vote for CPS.
There's nothing wrong with your sexuality.

 

Punishing her for kissing a girl is as bad as punishing a white person for hanging out with a black person. Its racist. You can't go around punishing people for their decision to act on their attraction to the same sex.

 

lol,, you need to expand your vocabulary. the proper word would be bigoted.

 

cps aint gonna do shit lol .. least on the lesbian part of it.. the parent is the parent.... no different than not allowing her to see a boy

however.......... they may not be happy with mommy dearest for kicking the child out to begin with.. that could be the issue... but again she is back home so will have to be able to prove that to them

and to call cps can have many many ramifications, getting in to the system in such a way isnt always the best idea... could come back n bite the kid in the ass...

if she is truly 16 then most states kids can legally fly the coup

 

Yeah, but saying one word doesn't satisfy me =)
And i already have more variety in my vocabulary compared to most my age, so get off my balls.

 

but using a word that has nothing to do with what your describing does?? nice..

trust me, i wouldnt go near your balls..

 

Just trying to help a fellow forumer. Plus, I just woke up 20 mins ago. and I'll happily admit that bigoted is a word that I've only heard a handful of times in my life, I probably haven't heard it for years. So yes, I didn't use it.

 

Sometimes, like in this case, moms are just trying to do what they think is right, based on the often limited amount of info they've accumulated during the course of their sad lives. Your mom shouldn't be punished for having tried to "do right" by you, but needs to be brought up to speed on the fruitlessness of making these kind of attempts to "straighten you out". If you're one of her first kids, you, unfortunately, are the trial product. If you were one of the last, she probably would have realized by now that this can only cause alienation and you two stonewalling each other in your entrenchements (French word,,ooo la la,,).

It's no fun for either of you, fighting with each other. Love is the answer, for her, and for you. In spite of the fact that she may be treating you miserably, you need to find a way to show her some love. In the end, that's the only thing that will win her over. She needs to know that in "losing you" to another, she's not really losing you. It's hard for her because you are her "little darling", and maybe she just doesn't have enough going in her life to feel fulfilled in some other way, but it's completely understandable, and you need to give her as much slack as she needs to give you. You both need larger hearts. It's not just about your rights and such. It's about love. If you don't love your mom, or if she isn't feeling loved by you, it must hurt, rights or not.

 

as was i..

so calm down.. :cheers2:

 

Find out via the internet what your state's emancipation laws are and what programs there are to aid an emancipated teen in getting some form of shelter...apartment, whatever. If you're really serious about living your own life you'll do the work it takes to get on with it.
Good luck.

 

NotAFairyTale, I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this with your mother. I'm trying to figure out why she would punish you so severely for having feelings, whatever they might be or end up being, for someone of the same sex? I as a mother personally can't see myself ever doing that with my own three children. My love for them is unconditional. But I realize that not all parents feel the same when it comes to certain issues they may feel strongly about. Right or wrong.

I'm thinking that your mother is having this irrational reaction partly because she's afraid in her career how others would look at her if it were to come out. The gossip, the reputation it could create. I could be wrong, perhaps she really does have a very strong opposition to the possibility of her daughter having same-sex feelings, but maybe a lot of her anger/frustration/fear stems from her anxiety over what OTHERS will think. And of course, from her standpoint, perhaps she's feeling let down, not by you, but by the possibility that she may not experience what most parents envision or hope for their children, the supposedly "normal" way of living. You know, the seeing your child get married, having children of their own, the usual. Even though these things can still happen for same sex couples, let's face it, most of the time it's simply not viewed in the same light by society.

I wouldn't want to tell you to do the wrong thing, it sounds as though this could potentially be a situation that may get worse if you do end up deciding you prefer those of the same sex.

And if she loves you, and I'm sure she does, then she should love you regardless of whom YOU love. Maybe she's just overwhelmed by her emotions right now and unable to see that at this moment, but maybe over time she will.

I'm really sorry sweetheart, I wish I had some easy answers or suggestions to help.

{{{Many Hugs}}}