Advice Please!! Coming Out To Family=Scared

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Hi, just got around to seeing this.

I'll tell you like a lot of young ppl who define themselves. Don't worry about putting a label on something that might change several times back and forth.

I still claim to be bi because of my extensive history of fucking women, but fact is I have only been with men for the past decade. Still, it's possible I'm bi. Anyhow, I don't care. I'm an old grampa who has learned that it's nobody's call but mine who I want to fuck.

So, first thing I would say to you is come out bi if you are anyway interested in boys. It has less of a dramatic impact on your so-called friends (Also, try to find some new friends that are more accepting and honest with you - not the apparent douchebags who ratted you out and shunned you)

Next is your prying, judgmental and condescending mother who grilled a teen girl about her sexuality. You owe her no consideration, except keeping things rosy if she is paying for college, in which case it is acceptable to tell her whatever she wants to hear. Denial will work in your favor and when you reach independence tell her the reality.

You are entering your adulthood and your sexuality is your choice and quite frankly none of your mom's business. When you are independent of her I hope you can stand up to her and say this is how it is - like it or not.

I have gone thru those things with my mother but in my mid twenties and was living independently of family. That helps.

Hope this helps you deal.