i came back from classes and my roomates and their friends were all in here. i came in and their friends were like okay i have to go to the bathroom and they all left. so then jessin was all jenni and i want a different roomate next semester... so you have to find another place to live... its so shitty because while i may not like them i still don't have a problem with them and now i have to find another place to live because they don't like me. i don't know...just hearing something like like really makes you feel bad. i knew they didn't like me but seriously, its their problem not mine. i don't know so i'm just like oh shit... and i have to register for classes and stuff, but why put all this stress on me?i have to go to a meeting tonight about it.. fun fun fun fun. i have been nothing but respectful and kind to them all semester where as they have been rude/disrespectful to me and my friends. when people call for me, they hang up on them. they have unplugged my alarm clock many times to plug in their blow dryers. i just don't get it and i wish i didn't feel so bad about it. they are very snobby girls and we are very different, but i just don't see why we can't get along. i just had to complain alittle so thanks all of listening. amy
So, are you in a dorm? If yes, then it sounds like this is a blessing -- just talk to whoever you need to talk to about getting into a different dorm room. If they can't move you in with a different set of roommates, then these girls can't kick you out. They probably won't like it & will probably be even bitchier next semester, but it's not like you'll be screwed for a place to live. If you're not in a dorm, well, how did you find this living arrangement? Did you sign a lease? There must be options, but not knowing your particular situation, I can't suggest any. It sounds like they are nasty little things (what kind of being would unplug someone's alarm clock to plug in a hair dryer?) that you are better off getting away from. Maybe next time you will get actual human roommates. You don't need to put up with that kind of childish petty crap.
yeah, i'm in the dorms right now. i went to the meeting last night and the RA is going to look into us switching rooms. the only thing is that we would have to move durning finals week. so i don't know whats going to happen with that but i told them that they could move if they have the problem. i have more important things like studying to do that week.
Its normal dorm procedure, atleast from what i have seen, that they cant force you to move if you dont want to, so dont worrie much about it. They probly just want one of their friends to move in so they can all wear pink and giggle on into the night like children. though movie might be best for you, and you might evben end up woth a singel
Roommates are probably the worst part of the post-secondary experience. I'm in my fourth year, and this is the first year I've actually liked who I live with. It's so hard to live with people, and it sucks when you get stuck living with someone who makes your life hell. I'm not sure if your roommates have the power to move you out or not, but it sounds like it would be better for your sanity anyway - been there! PM me if you want to talk, I understand what you're going through.
first of all, good luck! like everyone said.. they can't make you move... but if they're being nasty and spiteful, you're not going to want to stay in that living situation. i mean, they're bad already, and they'll only get worse. it would be nice if the two of them would move, but that'll probably be hard to pull off. you know, two-against-one, and they want to live together. would you be able to delay the move-in until after winter break has started, or your finals are over? or would it be possible to move early? they're putting you in a really horrible situation. my roommates were horrible the year i lived on campus. they kept pushing me further and further, until one day i completely snapped. afterwards, they were much more respectful. how do you normally react when they hang up on your friends, or unplug your alarm clock? if you're normally polite about it, i'd advise raising hell. scare them so badly that they're afraid to ever unplug your clock again. if they're trying to get a rise out of you, give them a rise so intense they never want to see it again. just make sure not to do anything they can use against you... if you physically threaten them, they could try and get you kicked out of housing (though a verbal threat is hard to prove). or treat them the way they treat you... unplug their clocks, and leave a hair-dryer in the socket. consistantly unhook the phone. nothing irreversible, of course. if they understand the daily stress and strife they put you through, that might be enough of a wake up call.
Roommates can suck so bad.... I finally have a great roommate... and I'm in my fourth year! Hang in there... we could always form a hipforums posse and come out there, kick their asses in a peaceful, hip way.
we had our meeting with the RA and they are both moving out and I am getting two new random roomates. so, just a couple more weeks and they will be gone. so, thanks for all the advice, it really helped me to feel better. at first i felt bad about it, but then after talking to everyone i realised it was silly for me to get upset about it. oh yeah i go to school in la crosse amy marie
should see if any of your friends got this prob. and try and room with em...i cant believe youve tolerated them for however long its been going on...way i figure its pointless to be nice to someone who won't give you the light of day
Congrats. I think it's probably safe to say that just about all of us who have lived with a roommate has had at least one pretty bad experience. My last one was a cast-iron passive-aggressive **** (and I don't use that word lightly!). Things got to the point that she moved out a couple of months early, after I caught her going into my room to do *something* to my dog (who always barked, growled, & hid when the bitch came into the house) because she thought I wasn't home... When arguing with the landlord about the security deposit -- she was being a complete bitch & hung up on me, so I had "a friend" (my boyfriend) call to try to get a straight answer... She made some comment about "you don't know what kind of person your friend is." Turns out, my former roommate sent a letter to the landlord claiming that she had to move out early because I had assaulted her! Let's just say that there is a 99.99999% chance that there would be a police report if there were the slightest bit of truth to that -- I chewed her out big time (backing a frightened dog into a corner, invading my space, etc.), but I was very careful in my wording & never even got near the bitch... Anyway, don't feel bad, it happens to all of us.
Post-it notes are your friends... I use them all the time, I put little notes on my stuff that say stuff like DO NOT UNPLUG ME or DO NOT TOUCH, and I use them to leave message for when my roomie's friends call.
just out of curiosity... why did i receive negative rep for my post? to clear things up, i'd just like to point out that i never recommended that amy harm her roommates. i said that if she is extremely passive about their actions, it might be time to stand up for herself. without knowing her or her complete situation, i cannot know how she has reacted to them in the past. anyway, i just think it's silly to give someone bad rep without giving them a reason for why their ideas might be skewed. maybe my advice really was unjustifiable... but if you don't tell me why i may be wrong, i'll never know. i don't want a debate, just a simple reason. i'm only posting this here because the bad rep was given anonymously... so i appologize for wasting anyone else's time/space with this post. and thank you to whomever agreed with me and gave me positive rep. it is much appriciated.
