Most you would wait to have sex with a new date.

To make it very clear.

This is about a person you JUST met, you never knew them before.

You start going out.

What is the longest you would be willing to wait for sex before you bail on them feeling like you're being a tool?

This is a fair question and an age old question.

Now that I don't date and have more or less settled down, I can enjoy hearing of my friends ventures, personally I think a guy who stays with a girl without getting any over 3 months is a certified tool.

Course most of my friends are over 18 and women they date are not virgins, so it might be different.

The way I take is, if a woman finds you sexually attractive, she will want you, no matter her moral guidelines, soon enough, and something about the 3 month mark to me is the borderline between taking it slow and dude, you're being toyed with.

I hear some guys tell me " she's not using me because we split on everything ", trying to justify their lack of pussy by the fact they're not being asked to pay for everything, that is somewhat fair, but some girls like to have backups, just like some guys do too.

I feel I have to issue some advice to all the guys round my age and as young as 17/18.

If you've been seeing a girl bout once or twice a week for 2 months, and she doesn't have the time to see you any more often, you might want to think about moving on, obviously there are legitimate reasons, but 2 months in if your girlfriend can't meet you up 3 times a week, like ever, maybe it's because she has set aside space to see other men?

Even the " work " girls generally have 5 days a week to spend time with friends, not talking 5 hours a day, but time.

So I come to the 3 month rule, dates do matter, but most women look at overall time.

Fellas, how many girls have you heard making an excuse not to move in as " we've only been on 8 dates ", I never remember that happening, to anyone, no, chances are a girl would rather tell you " I've only known you for a month ".

Get the pattern?

So think very carefully about the poll, and please, nobody give me the " if you love him/her you'll wait ".

Cause if a woman wants a man, she will have him.

Same goes for the most " gentlemanly " guy you know.

 

If it's going to happen at all between me and a woman, it's kissing on the 1st or 2nd time I hang out with her. And sex the 3rd or 4th time I see her.

I can possibly wait longer if we talk about it, and I feel like she's not being manipulative and we're not just downright incompatible when it comes to sex.

I've never had to/waited beyond 4 dates. I've had women who wanted to have sex with me later than that, but I had lost all desire for them (friend zone).

 

it really depends on the person. i'm celibate though so this hardly applies to me.

 

whenever she's ready--im ready right after the first date--so it basically depends on how easy the girl is that that u r dating

 

If I'm really hot for her flower, I would have to use the 3-date rule. Having sex with a stranger is dangerous these days.

 

well, i waited 6 months to have sex with my last boyfriend, and me and the new one had sex the day of our first date.

 

im probably bias..because it wasnt just sex, it was my virginity lol.
but we were friends for 3 months.
and exclusive for 2 months before oral, and almost sex.. didnt work out.
sex finally fully happened after 4/5 months dating.