I can't add much more than has already been said, but it seems like you've made a good decision, and have become all the more stronger for it... I like how you describe yourself as a single person...a sovereign nation...yeah, I do think you will do well, and I believe that your ex will likely do well too. Much luck and love to you always...
I went back and read my post again and I didn't mean for it to sound like you're a heartless person who doesn't feel pain at all. There is a sense of pain and a deep care for this other person. I can only wish for the both of you that you find what you want and need and that things work out as they are meant to work out.
43% of Marriages end within 15 years. Good luck and may you find resolution in communicating your feelings towards and away from each other. It is the only thing that will salvage your friendship.
well if you wouldve mentioned that n the first post, id give you better support but one thing i cannot fucking stand is people comparing me to my age. just because im young doesnt mean i dont know what im talking about. Within the last 3 years I Had probably more worse experiences than any other person. Im good with words and advice. Im almost too mature for my age but good luck and i stilll stand by my statement saying dont be friends with him
Having difficult experiences in life doesn't make you mature, or tough. Furthermore, if you feel you have to tell everyone just how 'mature for your age' you are, you probably aren't really that mature. And your attention whoring sig pic and your little attitude doesn't help either. "im almost too mature for my age" is just more attention whoring. its like waving your arms around saying "look how mature I am, guize!!"
wow look at you miss toughie criticizing my picture i just thought turned out to be cool not in any way am i an attention whore and yes having difficulties in life makes you stronger when you get through them. having difficulties in life and struggle to get through them, thats when they are weak Ive gone through losses that I ended up being so alone because i had no support, i was really drained for along time and i gotta hear my friends committing suicide. I got beaten up pretty bad but out of all of it. I came through on top and vowel myself never to let that happen again and you are calling me immature because i have confidence in myself?
Sorry to hear about the split DM, but from the sound of it seems like you need the split. Hopefully your soon to be ex will be civil.
I never claimed to be tough. And having difficulties in life doesn't amake everyone stronger, different people are affected differently. Some people are weaker for it, some don't handle it so well, some brag about it. yes yes, we're all aware of how "difficult" and dark your life was.
I do agree that going threw something hard doesn't make you tough, if you learn from it then you can be more mature from it, I know plenty of people who've been threw hell and back and they just withdrew themselves so much from the situation that they never learnt anything.
yes, it is all about what you learn from hard knocks. and the fact is, you will interpret those lessons lifelong. Good luck with that and I hope that compassion blooms in you. Forgiveness goes a long way, for your own healing.
Update: getting apartment keys this week and fully moving Aug 29-30. Preparing file-yourself divorce paperwork for him to sign in november (we think he'll go on a tour as a live painter- he's got an intriguing style) He's trying to hook up with a girl. She's a couple years older than my kid. hmmm. and cougars get picked on? I know he just needs to feel attractive, but he looks silly chasing. He'll grow out of this, I hope. Or they are going to dance on his ego and leave him flat. My male friend & confidante theorizes that the hubs is having a spurt of teen energy.