Girlfriend unwilling to have sex...

if it doesn't work it doesn't work, its not your fault, might as well sort it out before you get bitter. Being a teenager and having girl trouble is dumping gas into a fire.

Its not gonna make any sense and it wont be fair or pleasant but parting ways may be for the best. Do you really need this stress?

sorry

 

Just a possibility.....need a chill pill? Maybe three?

 

3rd Party, Professional Help or even trying to talk to her about it is not solid advice, especially if the problem has to do with something she never wants to say to you, either from something thats going to hurt your feelings, something she cant trust you with or simply thinks you wont understand.

Such is the case in love and war, some things partners NEVER say to each other

 

Oh my, that sucks. Talk to her and if you can't work through why she won't have sex, you may need to move on. You're young and sexual and don't waste life being unhappy. Even if she makes you happy, you will find someone who is very sexual and can keep you happy in all aspects of your life. Good luck and I hope it works out.

 

We're forgetting she's 17. I did not seriously enjoy sex until I was in a mature loving relationship (being as I was mature, AND in a mature relationship).

Can any other women feel me? Sex back then, I felt was the normal thing to do so I did, but I truly never enjoyed it, tried and thought "is that it, is that all the hype"?

She may not be ready, and unlike some of us that just keep trying, she knows it, but doesn't fully understand it (i.e. the bitchiness).

Maybe you should chill out and let her come to you?

just a suggestion.

 

At your age its not worth having a woman that is making you miserable. Doesn't matter how much you love them, something is missing, then thats not true love. Best advice, go out, have fun, don't get tied down for a while.

Sounds like she is manipulative, and perhaps the real possiblity is that she isn't attracted to you in that way. Just from what you said kind of seems like you lie down for her, you need to man up and tell her what you want from the relationship, and follow through with it, if she isn't willing to work on it or meet in the middle, walk away. Wanting to have sex with your girlfriend is NEVER something you should feel guilty about, and if she is trying to make you feel that way, then SHE is the problem.

 

which part of this advice doo you like??

i really think you should just sit with her one night and think together on this matter am SURE she will doo it, just dont make it on times limits as she may not like this incase you's get caught espically if its your parents house as would think yas still live at home??
she may not be comfortable with her body!!!!!!!!! nd may think u'll not like it either :S!!!!!!!
you have too think about her aswell hav a good chat with her am sure its gunna turn around any minute
3 times in 18months is bullshit!! ya cant rush into these things altho if you make her comfortable nd feel like she's comfortable in the place shes doing it that will make her relax more nd enjoy it instead ov worrying sumones gunna cum bk early or sumthing.
yas r 17 DO NOT seek professional help man... you's have plently offf time tooo form a GREAT nd wondering sex life!!!!

nd maybe she's just shy nd needs you too help her unshy its not like she cudnt ov did other things with you, am sure she enjoys it but is too shy to admit it.

 

The fact of saying that sex is not important is so bullshit on her part, no offense. I mean up until June 8 me and my bf would everyday, and from day one that i lost it with him it really did bring us closer.
You would think that since you were her first it would be the same bond. Loving someone and being compatable sexually and obviously mentally are two different things. Maybe shes saying youre pathetic because she feels like shes being used? I mean you say you compliment her and she just says yeah right? sounds like some major confidence issues?

 

The problem is low interest in you one her part so just dump her move and find a gal that actually likes you.

 

I'm sorry to say that we finished on Wednesday, not over this, but we argue to much.

 

Tough break, Spunkey. But before too long you'll look back on this split as one of the best things that could have happened.

I recommend reading up on the kama sutra before getting involved in any relationship again. It has some good advice about finding a compatible mate.

 

Just a guess here but could it had been that she was afraid of getting pregnant?

 

Maybe...but that would be odd, since so many options are so readily available. But even so, it would still be odd that a girl involved in a long-term relationship would want to be abstinent just to avoid pregnancy.

 

It could also just be that you aren't sexually compatible. I don't know - maybe there's something wrong that can be fixed - but maybe not. There may well be nothing that YOU can do to affect a change in the situation at all. Maybe that's just how she is and you might need to decide if that's something that you can really honestly be ok with.

If you've tried to have a healthy, calm discussion with her about it and you can't get anywhere then it's really out of your hands.

Your sex life is like the barometer of the relationship. If it's indicating that there's a storm - then there is...

I don't know you or your situation - but sometimes you need to pay attention to the writing on the wall.

 

Is she younger than you? if so her age could play a role. idk any ages her but just saying. She probably is either losing interest or HAS lost interest in you as a boyfriend. Talk to her and figure out what is wrong.

 

Throw a pizza on the bed, lmao.

JK

 

She's 5 months older than me, it was a extremely hard thing to do, I don't think i'm going to go near serious relationships for a long long time, maybe i'll be a player instead!

 

That's the spirit, Spunkey. Go buy a carton of condoms (I mean a box of boxes) and don't let yourself get into anything serious until you've used them all.

 

haha I might just do that, but i'm not much of a catch although lol

 

Makes absolutely no difference. Fortune favors the bold. If one doesn't like you, her sister will.