Dealing with narrowminded parents

I guess this is the appropriate place for this post. My question is how can I get my parents to be more lenient. I know don't have bad parents at all they just annoy me so much sometimes. Last night I came home completely trashed, I know I was in the wrong, but it's only the second time I've done it. My mom was bitching how she wishes I could just be like other kids and not do stupid things. Then I told her how literally 99% of my highschool drinks and she said that doesn't mean you have to. So she tells me to be like everyone else and to not be like everyone else. But yea I'm grounded for like a week or two (my parents found out I did xtc about 2 months ago so this doesn't help). How would I go about convincing them to reduce this punishment?

 

Honey, I definitely think you put this in the wrong forum because I think most parents here would probably stand behind what your parents' punishment. I know I would. They're not doing it to control you, or to make your life miserable, they're doing it to protect you because they love you and don't want to see you hurt.

Pain in the butt as it may be, your parents are trying to make you learn a lesson. Whether or not grounding you is going to be an effective measure or not, only time and your actions will tell. But believe me, I'm sure it hurts your mom more to ground you than it's going to hurt you to be grounded. Tough love.

Sorry bud. Better luck next time.

 

Our whole society teaches us to be different and then punishes us for doing it. Its just a double bind that weve created and can't get rid of. You really can't make them more lenient because they're just as convinced that they're right as you're convinced that you're right. And i'd punish you too. You're under 18 and which means you are your parent responsibility and you're breaking a major law by getting drunk since you're under 21. So its your parent's asses, and they need to cover them. Plus they love you and don't wanna see you get hurt or killed like so many other drunks have.

 

Yea I guess I chose the wrong place to post it, I knew I wasnt gonna hear what I wanted but it seemed appropriate. And as for them just grounding me because they love me and want me to learn a lesson, I know that but I dont think there is a lesson to be learned. I already hate alchohol and I think its stupid to drink. I just do it once in a rare while.

I absolutely hate it when my parents say that, it's not true at all.

 

Oh, but it is true! Trust me! When I have to lay the law down with my kids and take away privledges, it kills me to see them so upset! I don't want to deprive them, but I'm trying to teach them, and protect them. Which I know I can't do forever and I know you have to allow kids to make mistakes as well...but trust me, it's not easy!

Anyway, sorry about the grounding, yeah, it sucks but it will be over with before you know it.

 

okay wtf? Why is coming home trashed 'wrong'? Who fuckin says its wrong? The only reason I can see your parents being upset is cause your underage. I'm sure once your 21 they won't care as much. But my suggestion to you my friend is sober up a little next time before you get home. Coffee and water. Good luck.

 

2 weeks grounding isn't bad. be sneakier next time. i'd suggest getting some mouthwash, maybe some febreeze, and/or some eye drops and learn to fake sober better. oh, and sneak in.

 

Well it was already past curfew and I wasnt sobering up any time soon, so I decided I'd just go home. And I worked my magic once again. Ungrounded =)

 

As per the comments before, the parenting forum probably wasn't the right forum for it (thats where I found the link here). Before I fell pregnant with my kid (and therefore a teenager just like you with no responsibilities) I am fairly sure I would have agreed with you on this and be fighting your corner (after all, it was the same things I was doing, going out, partying with friends and coming home a little worse for wear). Now I have Hannah and things are different, and I definately would not like seeing Hannah rolling home drunk after a night out, I'd be worrying that she'd be getting herself in trouble, after all being drunk and on the streets....anything can happen and that terrifies me. So I would punish her like your parents punished you.
Good luck with your parents!

 

You parents care more about having to deal with your actions than what in the long run is best for you.

Be a good boy, apply and behave yourself and you'll get ahead in life?

No thats not how it works, people dont really pay attention to boring people

 

You just love being rude to me, don't you?

At least my children will grow up to be responsible and respectable adults with values and morales in tact. The bottom line is I'm a parent and it's my job to act like a parent, not a friend. I have the future right here and I want the best for them. This is how I was raised, my husband was raised, our parents, grandparents...all down the line.

And you know what? I must be doing a pretty damn good job so far because all I ever hear is how polite, well mannered and respectable my children are. My oldest son is a gifted A average student, smart as heck with so much potential ahead. My twins are athletic, outgoing, and so full of life. They're happy and well taken care of by two parents who love them more than life itself. If that's considered boring, oh well. I'd rather be boring.

 

Chris92 if you hadn't noticed, teenagers aren't know for making great decisions and particularly not while drunk. You parents are trying to keep you safe and are doing their job. But no matter what the issue is you live in their house, are a minor and have to live by their rules. You will soon be 18, so at that time I suggest you go be an adult, moveout and then it's all up to you what you do and the reprecussions of your actions will be your problem.

 

you shoulda spent the night then in the morning complain about how your ride was drunk so you couldn't be home in time. and you woulda called but it was too late. kudos on the magic mouth man.

 

Hear Hear!!!

 

wait till you have a child, then see how your opinions change

 

Narrowminded... Bad choice of words. My friend, they aren't narrowminded, they just have brains.

I'm 16 and I stand with your parents on this one. Jeez come live in my house for a while and the idea of rules doesn't sound to bad. (I just want them to count for everyone, and not get the same "your the child and I'm the adult" bullshit. If you want rules, they count for everyone, not just the kids, otherwise, I'm not following them for shit.)
Next time, FUCK ALCOHOL! Ego feuling at it's worst! Jeez, read up on the drugs you do people! If you don't inform yourself the just say no thing is the most sensible thing to do. IF YOU WANT TO DO DRUGS DO RESEARCH FIRST!