i just met this girl and we are going out, we've been going out for a week now, and she is already telling me don't be shy and to explore her body. now is that a good thing? what should i do?
im no expert on the matter but i say go for it, unless she is really trying to tell you that she isnt ready for it yet...
If she said those exact words than do what she said explore her body and enjoy it. I would love for my man to explore my body but he doesn't. It sounds to me if she used those exact words "don't be shy" that she wants to be man handled.
It probably means she thinks youre being a little hesitant, perhaps you should tell her how YOU feel about thins exploration. Perhaps having someone all over her reaffirms her self confidence as well as her confidence as to you liking her. Perhaps she has liked you a long time and wants to share her mind body and spirit with you. Or perhaps she is doing what she learned was 'acceptable' practice in a relationship. Whats the problem? she obviously likes you. I suggest having a chat
Well unless you feel uncomfortable getting so physical after only a week, do what she says. It sounds like she wants it. But if you feel that this is too soon, tell her you want to get to know each other better before getting really sexual. I'll bet she won't be offended. You could teach her she doesn't need to throw herself at you to get you to like her. or maybe she hasn't gotten any in a while!
it's not that i'm uncomfortable it's just that i also want things to happen between us, just not this fast.
If she's willing, and YOU'RE willing and don't feel awkward or unsure about it, then what the heck. Go for it. But then again, she might have a poor self esteem and might feel that having sex with someone is the only way to get them to "stay". If you think that might be the case, I'd say to hold off and get to know each other better on an emotional level first. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with holding off to have sex. Good luck.
