First Time Getting Head and Couldn't Cum.....

Uhhhggg, I had to google this problem to see what would come up and this forum came up as top link so I clicked and read some...... obviously I'm not alone in the problem with others posting about this problem too....


Ok here's the issue but maybe a bit different then some of you guys because it was my first time. I am 18 and I've been dating an AMAZINGLY hot girl (Tall Hot Blonde with a killer body, I'm still tied between weather I like her ass or her boobs more... but I can't answer that when she asks me too because both are too die for...), we've been a couple for one month as of yesterday. She actually was my first girlfriend/real serious relationship in my life..... She also just turned 18 recently, she's had her fair share of boyfriends in the past, but she is also a strict chatholic girl so she is still a virgin which I didn't believe her when she first told me because you'd never expect it if you seen her. Last week I asked her if she's ever even given head and she said no.
Well last night both of us could no longer say no to some of these questions.

The moment was too specail to not share our first times.... We both had bought eachother some KY massage oil for a little suprise haha, We both gave eachother massages. After that she had given me a hand job, I told her what I was used to, like if I were doing it myself. I personally like it on the faster/harder side. I almost came a few times but she would stop because her arm would get tired and she'd do it again and I would get close but she would have to stop. She asked me if it would help if she sucked on it, I immediately said yes but only if your truly ready since you've never done it before. She did but I thought it was actually a little on the un pleasent side the first time that night, she was actually a bit rough, like biting but not really meaning too at all since it was her first time and I don't blame her at all because of 1st time. She couldn't really go deep at all because of strong gag reflexes. She'd given a HJ to her other boyfriends but never head until me and said that I do have a very girthy penis and that made it harder to go deep, But it makes me smile knowing that haha.

I know she was getting frusterated and so was I kind of, She would suck then switch to jerking me off but I would get really close but couldn't cum. I eventually told her let me get myself up there and then you take over. I did and she took over but it kind of hurt cumming because I didn't tell her to take it easy when I was cumming, she just kept going hard haha. I'm not sure if I'm the only one with this problem but if I get myself up there and then stop because I don't want to cum, then go again and get seconds away from cumming then stop and do that a few times, it actually makes it harder to get back up there and actually cum, I also don't know if it made it more difficult to cum because I was in the mood to early that day in the shower so not sure if that threw things out of wack either..... Anyways she sucked me off for a while right after that and I stayed hard amazingly, I figured I would be limp for a while. After that I went down on her for a while, I made sure she went home with 3 good orgasms by eating her out/fingering her. I was really nervous when it came to eating her out because I thought it would taste bad but it really didn't, it was quite good, can't wait to do it again, I think I will have to play with her more next time to see if that helps when she's going down on me.

Driving her on the way to her house last night she had mentioned some time she would have to give me road head, I said forsure and she said how about now? Obviously I said yes, This time I was more specific with her as far as being a little bit more gentler with her teeth and to use her tounge more and suck a little harder. I would get close again but she would go deep but have to stop because of gagging...... I know she was really frusterated because I know how much she wanted to make me cum on her own without me helping and she would tell me that but couldn't and I feel so guilty and bad because now I feel as if I made her feel like she wasn't good enough on our first time that night and it might discouage her from giving me head again........ I texted her in the morning saying sorry and I hope it was just a one time thing and being a little nervous didn't help either.... I really hope I didn't give her a bad first experience doing this....

Ladies what would you have expected or done differently? Any advice for me both guys and girls so I can explain that I am not alone in the problem and there might be tips to help me out here????? I know this was our first time and there much more to come in our sex life but it was just bugging me since i had trouble getting off our first time. I'm hoping I get a lot of advice because I kinda want to see if she will give me a chance to re-do this the right way tonight...

Sorry long story but I appreciate all the advice and time taken to read this beast.

 

Many guys cannot ejaculate when getting head, and there is no substitute for your own hand when masturbating.

 

Tbh the more she does it the easier it should become. My gf gave head for the first time with me, took me a good half hour to cum. Shes got a lot better though, yesterday took only about 12 minutes.

 

Makes me feel a hell of a lot better knowing I'm not alone, I'll have to talk to her about this later tonight and sit down with her and explain that its just something the both of us will get better at with practice and it's not her fault, I had actually talked to my best friend who is going to college in florida said he is that same way, hell the 3 girls who he has had sex with he couldn't cum at all with the first two and still cannot cum when getting head. It was just eating me alive knowing that she wanted to please me so bad but couldn't and I felt like such a shitty boyfriend because I couldn't get off to her, But now knowing this has made it feel a lot better. It easier for me to get her off then her doing me but hopefully that will change. The neatest thing about women is the ability to have multiple orgasms one after another which is why She loves how fast I am with my fingers and hand, I can get her off very quickly because of it and I can go for long periods of time without getting tired or having to slow down, likewise with her giving me a HJ or head, how it's just something she will get better at with me, quick hands are the key that opens my gate......

Thanks guys + gals, Any tips are appreciated as I will put them to the test!

 

Don't sweat it. She has to work HARD at making me cum via oral. It feels so good I don't WANT it to end. Problem is finding a woman who likes giving it as much as I enjoy getting it.

 

You sound just like me. I got my first one the other night and let's just say it wasn't all that I expected. I enjoyed it, but nothing happened because it was something new.. PM me so we can talk privately!

 

i had the exact same problem but i figured out the solution. just don't masterbate for a while say like 1-2 days or as long as you can hold it then get her to give you head you will fucking explode haha

it's best not to masterbate in a relationship so you save all your cum for your girlfriend.

 

Some guys can't cum during head, no matter how good the girl is.
As long as it still felt good, I would take it as a good thing, because you're less likely to have ejaculatory problems when it comes down to fucking.

If you think maybe that she could've done a better job, watch some porn that's specifically related to giving a good blow job together, then she can try those techniques.