I've moved back home from uni and I don't know how to sort out all my stuff

So I moved back home from uni on friday.

I have too much stuff. Waaayyy too much stuff.

My old room still has a load of shit in it, stuff that was the old me, toys, 'just in case' things, things that I have kept just in case I need them... Which I don't. The stuff from my uni room is the stuff I want to put in my home room, but I think there is still too much there too.

I have a thing about guilt. I can't throw things away, or even think about taking them to the charity shop, because someone has bought it for me, and it has money and sentimental value. Even if it doesn't have much sentimental value, I still have the guilt of the fact I feel guilty for not appreciating the money value of it, so the guilt turns into a weird sentimental value. Which then pisses me off, because then I feel trapped by guilt, then my OCD goes wild, I get fustrated and give up trying to sort it all out.

So its all a big cycle really. My ocd goes wild and I get fustrated with all the shit I have and can't sort out, then I get fustrated sorting it out because I feel trapped, so I bail.

Does this make any sense?

Should I totally move everything out of my home room, and only put things I can't live with out in? What do I do with the other stuff? Sell it?

I don't want to offend my mum, because she has bought me all this stuff and I feel guilty that I don't want it anymore... ARG

I just want a clear room, where I can actually move in it. At the moment my bedroom is stuffed with boxes of old stuff and my bed is covered in boxes and clothes and my wardrobe is stuffed with shit. I have no where to move any of it. All my uni room stuff is downstairs in the spare room, and I don't think that all will fit in my room with all the old stuff.

God I hope I make sense >.< This is so fustrating, someone please tell me how to do this ><

And tell me how to not feel guilty

Thanks

 

Sorry this is off topic but this is really fucking up my head Thanks for reading

 

Maybe just focus on how you're giving your stuff away to a shop that will find a new home for your stuff, with people who will appreciate the value of your things. And that you're not throwing it away, or disrespecting the people who gave them to you because people change and etc.

Also, it will be awesome to have all the space for the things that you want to have around you, instead of all he things you don't want but have been guilted into keeping. If anyone is offended by you cleaning your room, they are crazy and are probably super packrats themselves.

I used to be like this, then I said "whatevs" packed it into a bag and sent it away. No one is upset, and I have space now.

 

burn it all

 

the important stuff is the stuff that you will keep without question for the rest of your life. everything else you should feel comfertable with getting rid of. im sure your mum and all the others will understand

 

My rule of thumb: if you haven't used it in the last year, you don't need it.

 

lol wait till you have your own house.

what I do - go through everything and get rid of most of it. goodwill.

 

I have the same problem except Its not the guilt its the love for whatever it is. right now all my stuff is packed up and put in a storage closet because lewis doesn't like clutter.

 

I was like that, but I'm getting better with it now and my room is almost there.
I found doing it a bit at a time helps, like the first time go through it all and throw out stuff that isn't too difficult to chuck.. but keep the things you either can't decide on, or you know you should but can't. Then by the time you go through it all a second time, you will end up throwing out the stuff you couldn't decide on.. but theres a few odd things you still can't.. that's where the third time comes in. Haha.
It worked like that for me, now I find myself wanting to chuck out things that I have to tell myself to keep because I do actually need them!

 

^thats really good advice ~inthsky~ I'll most likely never do it. because mom will always have a room at her house I can store extra goodies.

 

hopefully your mom will understand when you don't want things that you've outgrown... if not, that's her problem and not yours, be an adult about it and make your own decisions. you don't need guilt and CRAP taking over your life.. ya know? if it has any value, sell it, if not, give it to goodwill, maybe save a FEW things you think your kids might want or whatever...

 

Sounds like if my and DV got a house we would be the sort of people you see on them shows about people who have to clear up after dead recluses.

Anyway, my 3 favourite tactics are, 1-Shelves everywhere 2-I keep a lot of empty boxes for stuff when it's new, it isn't new now so you can ditch a few cubic feet of boxes 3- shove it in the loft.

 

Why would this thread still be around here but other threads like that zeitgeist thread was moved?

 

We have been working very hard over the past five years to become minimalists. It's amazing the amount of crap that can accumulate even when you are consciously trying to rid yourself of it. My rule of thumb? Do you like it or love it? If you love it, keep it. If you like it, then let go of it.

When I was younger and a hoarder I kept things for sentimental reasons. But I now accept that the memories are up in my gray matter and if they're not there, ah well... maybe I have a photo of it.

Purging can be the most liberating thing... seriously. On those tv shows where people have help come in and organize the clutter they suggest you have someone else there to rationalize with you when you are trying to keep things. You need someone to ask if you really do need it.

 

one day at a time, one box at a time.

eace:

 

that was actually the only thread that was moved, and as lux said it's because there have been MANY threads started about that movie in many different forums. if you have a problem, please be respectful and private message a moderator. thanks.

 

Two piles: Keep and Give away. For every one thing you keep, give two things away. Works everytime.

 

only hippies do shit like that

 

Things with sentimental value should be boxed up and stored.When you get older,some day you'll look in those boxes and be damned glad you kept them.You may not believe it now but it's true.Memories are sweet.Clothes and other stuff like that don't mean much.Good luck.

 

dragon, try freecycle. someone might want your stuff =]