Hey guys, first time poster. Been reading the forum for a few days now, trying to find a post similar to mine to save you the bother of giving out the same advice over and over again. But no such luck. Anyway, thing is.. i'm really confused as to if i'm bisexual or not. Im 17, and up until now i've always been attracted to guys. Although since about a year ago, i've become close friends with a few girls. I tell them everything, and they're so important to me. I think about one particular girl almost everyday, about the way she looks at me and some random stuff like that. I wish i could speak to her all the time and i can't stand having a day where i dont talk to her. Although i dont think i'm sexually attracted to this girl, in the way that i am with men. Now i'm a virgin, as are most of my friends, so i'm not really open to experimenting with girls to find out. The thought of having a sexual experience with a woman doesn't turn me on, but with men, it does. I just want to be with this girl all the time. Come to think of it I don't know if i would turn her down if she came on to me or anything. So is it possible that i am bisexual, even though i'm not having sexual feelings for this girl? Am i falling in love with her? I've been in love with guys before, the only thing missing this time is the sexual feelings. Thanks for your time, guys. Any help is much appreciated.
If you're not sexually attracted to women you're probably not bisexual. You can love someone deeply as a friend. That doesn't mean you're in love with them.
But it's the fact that I think about her literally ALL the time. I just always want to be with her, holding her. I don't know if I would react negatively if she was to ever come on to me.
You won't know that fire's hot untill you stick your hand in. Talk to her about it. don't just bottle things up.
The label isn't really important if you ask me. It sure sounds like you're in love with her. If she feels the same about you then you should be a couple. You're both young, so sex shouldn't be a barrier right now.
Don't stress over the label. Just be honest with yourself and with your friend, and see where it takes you. If you are "wired" to be bisexual, you will find out eventually. There is little to be gained by delaying it. You are what you are.
Are you out to your friends? The guys you were talking about that is? (I know this isn't helpful, I'm just curious)
i think you can be in love with someone but not sexually attracted... but that means you're not bisexual, you can be in love with someone but not bi
No, i've not mentioned it to anybody ): And thanks for all the help guys, it really is much appreciated. But recently i've figured i am actually becoming more and more attracted to her. I can't bear it. I know she's not bisexual, she's in a relationship and is very happy and I just can't bring myself to telling her because I know that it would ruin our friendship. ):
Coming out while telling someone you're attracted to them can be very confusing / intimidating for the person on the recieving end. Not in the, "AH! They're going to rape me!" sense, but you're laying too much onto them at one time. Bad idea to do both at once.
I am not sure which category I fit into, until recently, only a week ago, I have been happily married for 20+ years to my wonderful wife. However, Last week after a few too many me and a long term male friend ended up having what I can only describe as a fumble. This fumble seems to have woken a tiger in me and I am now desperate to take this experience further, it doesnt even have to be with this male friend any man. i have no idea where this came from...... is this a common thing or am I just a bit strange
I've been in a similar situation before Suzi, having that in love feeling for a girl but not the same sexual attraction as for a guy. It's happened with a couple different girls now, it's like an intense crush but the sexual attraction happens a little slower than it would with a guy. I've never acted on my feelings for a girl before, they've been straight and I haven't wanted to mess up a friendship. In my opinion the reason the sexual desire has not been as strong is that I had a long time to imagine being with a guy before actually having sex with one, and it's only been since these "girl-crushes" that I've imagined being with a girl. The first time it happened I thought it was just a fluke or a phase or something, but it's happened with two girls since. I'm in a relationship with a guy right now and am really happy with him, so I've concluded that I'm prolly bisexual but just haven't had the opportunity to fully test that out so to speak. I've never told anyone I feel this way, so it's good to get it out actually
