once a week is not enough!

I'm sorry but none of that shit works..

If I sent my gf a rude picture of me she wouldn't know what to do. Yeah it sucks.

 

dude I really don't mean this in a mean way at all. I know you love your girl very much, but she might be a little 'defective' for lack of a better word. Mine was. Most girls eat that shit up

 

I kinda get where you're coming from. You know shes working and you're working so you 2 are quite busy, you just think about her a lot and most women tend to get stressed more and worried about the bills and put off the sex for awhile. Now Im sure when she gets the time, she'll jump your bones. I mean you gotta think positive, shes out there working and making money for you guys, its not like shes going out to bars without you.

Give her some space and kissys and huggys here and there just to let her know that the romance is still alive. You think about cheating huh? Well its only a thought, you would have done it already believe me. I was in a relationship one time where the romance wasnt really happening and I did indeed think about it, but to me its some sort of fantasy that isnt going to come true.

It'll pass within time, you're gonna get these bad times every once in awhile, pass this one and you'll be fine for the rest

 

Oh my gosh. Seriously, what is it with men that think just because women aren't constantly thinking about & begging for sex that it's US that have the problem?

Some women just aren't as interested. And for some women "not as interested" could be environmental - long hours at work, stress, etc... but for other women it's just that they simply don't "need" sex as much. We're not damaged, and there's nothing at all wrong with us. We're just a bit less interested in sex. And a LOT of women are NOT visually stimulated! Showing most girls a picture isn't gonna help much... you need to stimulate her MIND!

Without going into detail, take it from a mama who's been on the other end of this issue for 14.5 years. Pressuring her is only gonna shut the libido down farther. Sometimes talking about it helps, but it can also turn her off. And suggesting or even implying subtly that she isn't interested in YOU because she isn't interested in THAT is a guaranteed turn-off.

Wanna know what helps? Being pampered WITHOUT feeling like we need to "put out" for the attention. Offering to draw up a bubble bath with candles helps. Bringing home a single flower, or a bit of chocolate can help. Foot massages & back rubs help a LOT! Try one of these, maybe offer to make dinner for her, and DON'T hang around drooling & begging. Maybe her libido just needs to be wooed for a bit.

My husband, the poor patient one who has to live with his sexless wife, says that trying any one of these without the obligatory 30-second wait before begging for sex, is the best to try... and DON'T hang over her the minute she gets out of the tub. He says this is what you do to woo her, not to get your next roll in the hay. He also says to remember that the bedroom isn't a trading post or a bartering table... you can't barter a cooked dinner for sex, or trade bubble baths for "bangs."

I cannot BELIEVE he made me say that! Anyway... there's the opinions of lifelong partners, for what it's worth.
love,
mom

 

Maybe she'd dig the bath stuff etc. But not the rude picture.

You're probably right man, what am I supposed to do? Dump the perfect girl because she isn't as sexual as me?

 

Amen to that, sista

 

well, veroness´ advices were a bit out of the dream land in my opinion... try to keep your sex - live active with those things only over a matter of several years... illusionistic

But hey, a simple way that worked quite fine with me: just talk with her. yeah, sounds strange and its in fact pretty hard to do, to talk honestly about your own sex live with your partner, but try it... simply talk with her about what is bothering you. nobody understands women, but if you can get some straight facts out of her, well, this could actually help a lot. in my experience the inability of younger (and older) couples to talk about their sex life is a prime reason for sexual frustration and unhappiness - just keep in mind: BE HONEST. you wont solve any problems if you compliment each other (" you are the best lover ever, fireworks etc.") or if you assume you yourself are perfect ("Whoot? every gal likes what i do....").

Sex is about learning - no one is born as a sex machine or as the perfect lover. and practise has nothing to do with quantity but with quality.

 

I'm sorry but this isn't always true. I'm not a perfect boyfriend, nobody is. But hell I do my best to make her happy. I sit there for hours tickling her arms and face whilst she falls asleep, I cook myself a fillet steak and then share half with her when she comes round because she's hungry, I make her candle lit dinners and treat her like a goddess.

I buy that dress she's been looking at for weeks but can't afford then hang it up so when she walks into my room her eyes light up. Oh wait that one did get me laid.. :\ damn..

All I ask is for her to actually talk about sex and act interested at times other than when we're naked in bed. Like when we're sat watching boring ass TV and all she can think about is the next episode of Friends, maybe SHE could make an effort for me and maybe seduce me.. Try to do something nice for me by showing that I'm the only person she wants to have sex with in the world.. Not give me the cold shoulder every time I make a sexual advance or try and get her in the mood..

Hell if the shoe was on the other foot and us men constantly turned women down and acted dis-interested in sex it'd be a different story.

 

dude she's not perfect. You answered your own question. Your just infatuated with her. I know you love her, but theirs someone better for you out there. They may not have dd's or be as 'perfect' but their sexual appetite will match yours and ultimately as you've proved to yourself indirectly, thats much more important. your unhappy dude, doesn't sound so perfect to me.

 

I'm not unhappy, I'm unhappy like 5% of the time when I think about sex. When I'm with her the rest of the time I'm never any happier..

She's one in a million apart from not being too enthuiastic about sex.. And I'm not talking about the DD's lol.. I mean ehr as a person..

 

okay. I don't know you two other than what you've told me. As long as your happy thats all that matters

 

Yeah I appreciate the honesty and know you're just trying to help. What you say is very true.

Put it this way, people who know us must assume we fuck like bunnies and have an awesome sex life, my brother was shocked when I told him what she's like because he thought we must be at it all the time the way we act. It's not even a front, we really do click and get along so well, she's the only girl who genuinely makes me laugh. I just wish she cared about sex a bit more.

Tonight for example she came round, we go upstairs on my PC for a bit then lie down on my bed. I'm pretty horny, she's happy to sit there all night, and just let me tickle her. She has no interest in sex at all. If I tried to advance she'd get a bit annoyed because she thinks I'll be mad if she turns me down. It's a lose lose situation. But I still had fun and enjoyed seeing her.. such a shitty problem lol.

 

Don't you love the advice given "grow the fuck up" "you're a caveman"

Like somehow your less of a person if you want more sex.

Of course if you marry this girl, then 10-20 years from now the shoe will be on the other foot, she'll be at you for it every night and you'll be like oh, get off me.

Try telling her and the other members of the 30 something sisterhood at that stage to "grow the fuck up" - see what happens