Went to the OB today. There are 2 NPs that rotate in the practice there. Today I saw the one I had never met before. And funny enough I still haven't met the woman. She came in, opened my chart, spoke out loud to herself and never introduced herself. I was nursing Journey when she walked in... She asked how things were going and I told her I was still sick and throwing up in the mornings. She said,"At 21weeks?" in disbelief. Yes, I know, it's supposed to go away after the first trimester, and of course she tells me this like if I know this it will change things. Then she asks me how often I am breastfeeding. I told her right now my baby is cutting her 2yr molars so it's like 8-10times a day but normally only a handful of times. She goes on to warn me about how this can cause contractions yadda yadda. I cut her off to tell her that I was familiar with nursing through a pregnancy and that I tandem nursed for 6months and I was not worried about contractions seeing as how I haven't had the first one. I told her that I usually drink a lot of water overnight so that when I throw up in the morning it isn't just bile cause the bile really burns but last night I slept well and didn't wake that I recall therefore didn't drink anything. This morning I threw up blood She said things were probably just irritated and moved on I told her I had Reglan prescribed to me but that it wasn't helping AT ALL. I also told her that I previously had Zofran prescribed and it really helped me but only got 12 pills (a 6day supply) because my insurance would only cover 6 days. She cut me off to tell me that those 12 pills cost $800 and I should be grateful that my insurance covered it at all I asked her if she could just prescribe me a 6day supply each month then so that the days I know I need to do things I can actually get out the door without throwing up my baby!! She obliged. Bitch. She wrote #12 on the script...couldn't she just has easily have written 30 or more? Couldn't she deem it necessary medically seeing as how I vomited BLOOD? Whatev... She goes on to tell me that my baby is breech - WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MATTER AT 21 WEEKS?!?! Gimme a break! How many uneducated women is she scaring with a breech baby comment at 21 weeks? There was no reason to even mention that. I started talking to her about the hospital. I told her I had never had a baby in a hospital and quite frankly it scared me to death. I asked her if we had to stay the night - she said the baby did but I could leave if I wanted - who the hell would leave their NEWBORN?! Idiot. I told her I wanted to come in and have everyone leave me alone. No exam, no nothing, just catch my baby, tell me she's okay and give her to me. She said it just doesn't happen like that. She said the baby will have to go to the nursery because the lighting is better in there for their exam - She said she couldn't guarantee that I could get up and walk around because it's a case by case thing, depends on if my water is broken or not, if they use pit or not, etc. I told her that I wouldn't use ANY drugs in childbirth. If I don't use them in pregnancy why would I use them in childbirth, yk? She said that a lot of women say that they want to walk around and have a natural birth but once you get the epidural you can't do that - well duh! It paralyzes you so you can't feel your body doing anything like you should be able to - of course you can't walk around! She was just an asshole. She looked at me like I had three heads when I asked about getting into water during the labor and/or birth. I get that these are Drs trained to catch babies - but they aren't trained to control births - I CONTROL THE BIRTH - ME! Now the difference is that I am educated - that's why I left there mad and not just nodding and smiling. But what about the women who come in there not knowing? What about the women who think this is the kind of care they deserve? Those NPs and Drs don't know me, they don't care about me OR my baby. I miss my midwife. I so desperately just want to run back to FL into the office at her house and sit on the cozy daybed where she conducted all of the appointments. I want a hug when I walk in and when I leave. I want a healthcare provider who says hello to my children and remembers there names. Someone I can cry to when I need to, someone who CARES. I've heard people talk about how bad the OBs/hospitals are but I had never been under the care of an OB before. I've said, "that's messed up" and agreed but today I was there. I lived it, I felt it. I left a crying mess. I was so glad dh was with me cause I couldn't have driven in that state. Sorry for the novel - had to get it out!!!
YES! And to boot we only live a 1/4mile from the fire department. But my hubby isn't really on board with it. I found some underground midwives that will deliver in Alabama. Too bad insurance won't pay for a homebirth in AL. In FL Medicaid of all insurances covered planned homebirths w/ a mw! It's just crazy how they can dictate the laws about where we chose to birth our babies and with whom!
Wow. Just wow. I'm sorry you were subjected to that nonsense. Just because someone has a medical practice doesn't mean they're not an uneducated twit, as she so well demonstrated. You displayed far more restraint than I would have. So is hb just completely illegal where you are?
I'd talk to your husband about his reservations, research together about those fears, and explain to him what your fears are, what your needs are, and what you see happening if you did a hospital over a homebirth. You have documentation now that you are in fact pregnant. Hell, you could even keep going to the doctor for pre-natal care to ease your husband's mind, and then just "forget" to go to the hospital. Makes getting the birth certificate easier. But please don't give up. Your husband is worried for you and the baby, but if you are intrigued by UC, a bit of research might go along way!
