Afraid to make the first move

I'm into fitness, specifically bodybuilding and am in the gym a lot. Granted I see a lot of guys but I have this fear that if I make a comment or something more like a move I'll get my ass stomped or something. My household isn't homophobic I think but I don't think my family will love me the same if they knew I was gay.

I still see internet dating as a sleazy affair so I don't think I'll be going that route. Plus, who can you trust really online?

Lastly, I live in a small city, population varies around 21,000. There is no "gay bar" or any gay scene that I know of. It's not a swinging place if you get my drift.

How does someone meet guys??? BTW I've never had any date experience, boy or girl.

 

This is all to familiar for me, do what you have to do to be happy, if that means moving to find more fish....

 

Hmm...Theres really only 2 things you can do.

1. tag along with friends who go to stuff you might not want to (even if your not interested, you just need options to meet new people)

2. You may have to wait until you have the chance to relocate

I can say, I came from a town where there were more cows then people but then I moved and my options opened up alot.

and by the way, your family will love you the same - they just may need time to process it in their own way and deal with it. It took a good long time for my parents to finally just accept it and i was convinced they hated me. but you just have to remember to be yourself and take a peaceful, and understanding road; esp when it comes to parents who may not understand. they may not understand you but you can always try to understand try to forgive them if things dont go swimmingly at first.

good luck!
- a well wisher

 

i dont think you should move i would move after liek u got stomped its awfull but untill soemthing bad happens why move. what i would do is feel around there has got to be another guy who is a bit effeminant or who seems different some one u know who hasent had a gf either u know nad just become friends with them and through friendship new sexual expierences may flurish. i like in the big city and its hard to find people here its hard every where if u dont know how u know u need to learn to swim in ur small pond before u brave the ocean

 

Dude,

First off, make friends. Even in a small town people make friends. "Hey, how's it going?" can open up a new avenue. Go for drinks, put out feelers. You may be surprised at how friendly dudes can get, if they like who they see...

Second off, beggers cant be choosers. Do not discard the almighty web. Sure, lots of sleaze around, but some nice dudes, too. There might a dude or two around with the same problem at his hands (not sure about the pun), and you may help each other out. Life can be good, if you give it a try.

Third off, save up some dough, and make a trip to the next bigger town. Connect beforehand, search for cruising spots. Go and have some fun. If this works for you, try and relocate. A small town is cool for families but is usually pits for single, horny dudes.

Fourth off, get going...

KD