I have a fetish to be analy penatrated, But g/f just not intrested

Hi any tips advice etc on this would be great.

Im a hetrosexual male of 25 years old and take no shame in admitting i love to have my ass played with and penetrated, i regulaly play with myself using dildoes and butt plugs in my ass etc in the past g/f's have participated in this fetish and playing with my ass using fingers and plugs etc one even fucked me with a strapon.

Unfortunatly my current girlfriend who i have been with for 3 years now just will not participate in this form of play at all. i havent even mentioned strapons as i havent even got her to finger my arse yet i have told her on many ocasions i like it and it would be nice but the end result is always the same she says she is uncomfortable with it i ask why and she just says she is.

It upsets me as i would do anything for her, i actualy play with her arse and she never complains about that she likes bondage and we do this on ocasions.

Should i just accept she will never indulge in my anal fantasy ?
Am i unreasonable to think it unfair that she doesnt ?

Regards

 

Yes, just accept it. All things considered, if you love her and she's otherwise a good sexual partner, just deal with it.

There are a couple of things my wife isn't into, for example she doesn't like me to cum in her mouth. I've never pushed it. I'm just happy to have my dick sucked.

Once in a blue moon, she'll indulge me and take it in the ass, but she doesn't like that either -- and that kind of diminishes the pleasure for me too -- knowing she's not really enjoying it.

 

She also will not swallow, i think thats not a problem and i shouldnt expect her to swallow, but playing with my bum isn't asking her ot take somthing inside herself or swallow something its her penetrating me with a toy which doesnt realy affect her directly if that makes any sense ?

 

Why don't you try having a butt plug handy, and when you are fucking her, just slip it in your ass -- and see what she does.

Actually, now that I think about it, my wife doesn't stick her finger in my ass either, but we do play with butt plugs. We've got a couple of tiny little vibrating plugs we use. I never had one prior to meeting her and never really did anything anal either.

However, I watched her use it while masturbating, and started using it on her while we fucked, when I went down on her etc. (She likes a little something just inside her ass -- no dildos etc. and as I mentioned, she doesn't like to be fucked in the ass.) One day, I just asked her if I could try it, and she handed it to me and said have at it. She's stuck it in there a few times, but usually, it's up to me.

In short, she's really not that into stimulating my anally, but doesn't have a problem with me doing it. Maybe you could work toward that.

We've been married 4 years, and we didn't discover each other wants, desires and dislikes over night. We are still trying new things, experimenting etc. Patience -- compromise. It's all good.

 

be bluntly honest.. and find out why she doesn't .. tell her that you only want her to do it.. to feel what she feels.. .. swallowing some women don't like the texture. if she still blows you and spits thank her..

 

You know, that's the easy answer. Being "bluntly honest" isn't always the best way to handle things when it comes to sex. Sometimes people are a little embarrassed or reluctant to discuss their aversion to something. If you are too blunt, too emphatic about expressing your desires, it may backfire.

So you might need to dance around it a bit, be gentle and diplomatic or drop some hints. This holds true even for couples who've been together for a long time.

 

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Does she understand how the prostate works and where it is? Most of the time in this situation, they are wondering why you'd want your ass penetrated, because they dont get the whole prostate aspect. It makes them think you might be gay. I know, I know, it sounds ludicrous, but it is almost always the problem. Once you educate her on the workings and location of the prostate, and thereby explain why a straight dude would want his ass penetrated, she will not have a problem with it anymore.

I've had this happen more often than not when introducing the idea.

 

haha, that's how i talked my boyfriend into letting me use dildos and vibes on him. he had never realized how good it felt before then.

 

Thanks Kama, I think this may be a good route to take and ill hope with time she will come round to the idea

 

If you have a long enough dildo you can slip it in and have sex with her in the missionary style. Just keep upright. GOD does that feel good. I cane cum so much harder that way. she is way into it these days. It started by her saying that I can put it in her ass if she can put it in mune. I pretended to be freaked out and agreed. I win!!!

 

So after a lot of discussion over the last few weeks my gf has said she will give it a go, she has said physicaly it's not a problem but she still needs to get her head round it mentaly, so here's hoping that when we do it she enjoys it and reliaes it's not a big deal.

She has asked me to buy some latex gloves for next week, I'm so excited about it I got a hardon as soon as she told me to buy some latex gloves.

Bring on next week and I hope she gets her head round it

 

Ok so gf got the gloves and final gave me a prostate massage at first with on finger and then 2 fingers whilst giving me a blow job, it was amazing after, we talked and she didn't seem like she loved it however she said she didn't dislike it and would do it again, so it's a step in the right direction I'm Hopeing for a dildo or butt plug next time

 

What you need to do is reinforce your desires with information, videos, hot posts about anal sex. It seems that she suffers from the same thing that my wife did in the beginning, Hangups.
The true facts about male anal/prostate stimulation will help to get rid of the old wives tales and hangups. My wife even gave it a try herself for a while. Now, she enjoys doing my butt with a dildo, or strapon, knowing that it satisfies my sexual needs, helps me to maintain a healthy prostate and it keeps me from bothering her.
There are many sites now that have great strapon clips and vids. Maybe seeing that it isn't so bad will encourage her to go a little further.:cheers2: