This situation is tearing me up...help...

Why would a girl acquiantance at the gym you know do these things?
she's iranian i'm asian and we had some conflicts 2 years ago bordering on racial(maybe or misunderstandings)but i've tried to be more respectful lately and we have tried to be civil,but lately(the past couple of months)she has been mirroring my actions at the gym(excersize wise)and is trying to get into my friends circle and saying hi and getting closer to my friends.What's the deal?I say hi and just avoid,,,,what's her deal?even her freinds are being nicer to me(or once in awhile they will acknowledge me more)....is this some kinda trick?Today i saw her talking to my friend when she was on the eliptical...it's bugging me...Not being judgemental,but i've had so many bad experiences with iranians.I'm starting to wonder if backstabbing is a trait with them...

 

this is hard. i only have your side of the story. however, it sounds likes, she and her friends are trying to learn about you. learn what, i have no ideal. your right about one thing thought, it sure does feel like like a psychological game of some kind, she is playing with you. the vast majority of psychological are bad news... someone gets fucked over.

lets face the fact, that sometimes in life, people just don't like each other, and no reason can be found for it either.
it is best to play it safe here. this could be a set up on her part, to get you out of that gym, maybe even kicked out of there. there is a name for this, it is called 'mobbing.' most often it happens in the work place, yet it can happen anywhere people are together.
i hate to tell you this. mobbing kills both the body and spirit of the person who is mobbed.
THERE IS NO LEGAL RECOURSE FOR IT!
no laws have as yet been enacted to protect its victims.
QUIT THE GYM NOW!
people do become disabled from mobbing, and are never able to hold a job again, and people do die from it too!
this is a battle best not fought, yet better to run away from it!
no ones life and/or mental health is worth a gym!
CHOSE YOUR BATTLES WISELY!

 

Or it could just be that she has Changed and is trying to be more friendly
Maybe you can Change too

 

she obviously is attracted to your understanding of racial differences and is intrigued about how you handled conflicts between them...something girls like alot.