I've been dating the same guy for about 3 1/2 years. Our relationships is great and we are supposed to moving in together this fall. Problem is I want to have sex with someone else. I'm bored with our sex life. It's always interesting, but I'm not as into it as I used to be. To make matters worse I've got this other guy that I have a crush on. Not so much a crush, I just really really wanna have sex with him. I have sex dreams about him (both at night and during the day). And it's come to the point where I'm thinking about him during sex. All this worries my. I don't know what to do. Any thoughts?
Get a written lease with the 3 1/2yr guy, and keep receipts. The written instructions (clauses) about early move out will help when you two break up.
Yeah. Whenever you start thinking about another guy that's not good unless you are okay with him about it. It sounds like you wanna fuck someone else. That doesn't work unless you're open with your relationship
the fantasy of having sex with this guy is most likely better than the reality would be - keep that in mind
OKay you are in a long term relationship. Are you willing to throw this away ? Have you discussed this with him or are you suffering in silence ? My response to this depends on your answer to the first two questions. If your answer to the first question is, yes you are willing to throw your relationship away, then break up with your boyfriend, problem solved. If your answer is, no, then proceed to my second question. If your answer to the second question is, yes you have discussed it with him and nothing has changed, then breakup with your boyfriend. Don't cheat on him, break up with him. If your answer is no you are suffering in silence, then you have not given your boyfriend a chance to change anything. Go talk to him about it, chances are good he is just as bored as you are.
options: * share your feelings with your partner, go from there * don't share your feelings, move in, and either explode from prolonged suppression or cheat on your partner perhaps you need some time to think about what you want in life right now and what role your current relationship is playing in the big picture. your thoughts about this other person may fade, but urges for sex outside the relationship could remain an obstacle for you. it's up to you how you address these. I've been in your shoes. I don't advise that you keep the feelings to yourself and hold on as long as you can. I tried that and ended up cheating. We broke up shortly after because it turned out neither one of us wanted monogamy any more. It worked out nicely in the end, but the path to the end was painful for both of us. best wishes to you eace:
