i want someone else's perspective... would it be wrong to go to a party and tell your boy/girlfriend she can't come, (keeping in mind that he/she spends every other night with you), while your ex is in town for the summer and also at this party, then get drunk and leave the party with ex + a mutual friend and spend the night at this friend's house in the spare bedroom in the same bed with your ex... assuming nothing physically happened between you and the ex. and would it make a difference what you and the ex slept in? any opinions...?
well why did you tell your bf or gf that they couldnt come? thats kinda douchey of you and then sleep in the same bed with them,but nothing happened?! pffftt, tell it to the judge lady, cause i aint buyin it.
if you did not fuck then no, it does not matter really. if you did slept but you wanted it, it does not matter again. it`s going to matter only if you believe that you`r present boyfriend/girlfriend won`t be ex someday.
I don't think I would let my wife do that. Definitely not in the same bedroom. I could see them crashing out in the living room, but not under the same covers. That would be really messed up I think. You are deceiving your bf. What do you think about it?
lying and ditching your bf to hang out with your X?!?! Does that SOUND ok to you? It is almost like you are asking what is right and whats wrong. You know.
no, this is what my boyfriend did to me... i tried to word it so no one would assume either way, but i guess that didn't work. and yeah, i wondered the same thing ---why couldn't i come? he invites me to every other party he's at... but i knew his ex was in town so i figured that's what was going on. and he didn't LIE about it but he never would have told me if i hadn't found out about it myself. he also told me that if i hadn't been "pissing him off lately" that it wouldn't have happened at all -- isn't that like admitting that he knows what he did is wrong? i dont' know if i should believe him that nothing happened...
Wha...Why would he feel guilty if he did nothing wrong? Sounds like your bf got a lay from his ex to me, but oh well as long as you trust that his words are true it's all good.
He def fucked her. That is the only reason us guys mess around with Xs, its pussy already conquered (pardon the vulgarity). He is a shit bag dood, you need to leave him. Don't fool yourself into thinking that they didn't do it! Why couldn't you have gone?? and yes, he did LIE. You are supposed to be a team, so you communicate better and know whats going on with the other. Its pretty simple, does it FEEL right? If it doesn't FEEL right but doesn't feel wrong, thats iffy. But if it FEELS bad or wrong, then it is. I hate to see girl get taken advantage of.
you may never know for sure. most people are very bad deceivers and you can easily tell when they lie. i mean if he is not very convincing then he is probably deceiving you. But seriously do you love him , like really , really love him? because in my opinion that`s when you should feel hurt and fucked up about it, any other way you should not care that much. he is not your first i am pretty much sure he won`t be your last. and after he did this to you i don`t think you did anything bad in doing the same thing.
Well, you never know, but I am afraid if he did. at the least he probably messed around and made out, hopefully. But I think it is so wrong to not invite your other, id always prefer hanging out with my girl over anybody else, so the fact that he doesn't is suspicious, he shouldn't do that unless he was hiding something, I would just confront him and ask him to be honest, ya know. Typical awkward convo.
well of course i can't know for certain if anything happened sexually between them. but do you guys think there's anything wrong with what he admits to doing ---getting drunk, leaving a party with his ex in front of everyone, and then sleeping in bed with her. keep in mind that the few times i've met her i've noticed the way she acts is kinda suggestive towards him, and she's cold toward me for no reason... it's pretty obvious she's not over him. i, personally think it's humiliating for him to do.. everyone at the party knows we're a couple and then he leaves with her... it makes me look like a sucker, you know? i've been trying not to focus on that, because, really, who cares what everyone else thinks of our relationship, what matters is how WE feel, right... but i really feel betrayed even if they just SLEPT together... he should've been sleeping with ME that night like every other night of the week for the past year. do i have a right to be mad if that's all that happened between them? it's not like she could possibly "steal" him from me since she lives so far and HAS A FIANCE. so should i just get over it? my friends have pretty much agreed "dump him" but i'm very much in love with him... is this really that big of a deal? i'm rambling... i'm just confused. oh, and since this happened our sex has been filled with "i love you"s and "babe, you know that you're the only one that matters"s ... does this point toward innocence or towards guilt?!
Towards GUILT! For SURE. Every time I cheated on my girlfriends I was always nice to them, and the sex was better for some reason. I would feel bad and try to show her that I love her. Kinda of like saying sorry for something she doesn't know about. I have not cheated very often, but this is what I did when I did. Usually, if a whole group of people think its wrong, then ITS FUCKING WRONG!!! The majority is where we get these wrongs and rights from anyways. If you two both want to practice polygamy then its like whatever. Fact is he drank, left the party with the girl, and slept in the same bed. FYI... Guys usually can't resist a wanting girl IN THE SAME BED! I know I couldn't, especially if I already fucked her. He thinks because he went bold by telling you he slept with her that you would believe he is telling the truth about not fucking her. I used that same strategy. Maybe I am telling to many guy secrets... If you want to live in a delusional world blinded by love you can, but when he brings back genital warts remember I TOLD YOU SO. Do you want a guy that sleeps in other girls beds? Is that the kind of husband you want to have kids with? Remember, the loving feeling you have now fades into a different type of love after a while. Its more like a strong brother sister relationship. Could you handle this if you didn't have the newly wed/puppy love/lust? TRUST me, I know it hurts like FUCKING HELL... It still makes me sad about some of the girls I knew I had to break up with. It takes the courage of the gods to actually leave them. Sheesh. Damn... Sometimes though, its just better to deal with it until you can handle actually breaking up. Now that I thought about the actual break up I feel really bad for you. Been there, done that, and DON'T want to go back... Look, most the people on the internet will tell you the truth, if you want to just reassure your wanting him to not have cheated on you then ask your friends. They will most likely tell you the truth then tell you what you want to hear (or just tell you what you want to hear). I am going to tell you the real most probable (in this case, 99.8% chance) situation. I am not going to help you fool yourself into thinking its OK or that he didn't fuck her. Although I am extremely sympathetic about the situation! I am sorry for you having to deal with this situation. I for one, do not think sleeping with an ex is alright at ALL. Good luck hun!
first of all, you should be mad that he premeditated it all by telling you that you could not come....as i already said, thats a really douche bag thing to do...... second of all for you to believe nothin happened is just prolonging your misery of facing the truth. you may be in love with your idea of what he once was or potentially could be, but are you really in love with someone who would ditch you to sleep with his ex? get rid of him now, before it becomes habitual.
