Why do most girls think anal is bad?

It's Codemeister's treatment of her that borders on prostitution. No woman likes being pressured to do anything like that, especially when money is being held over her as leverage. It has already been stated that the wife doesn't want to do anal.

Post #111 could be used in recruiting posters for feminism.

 

ALL my posts are about giving back to the person you love. not mainly anal. My feeling just apply to anal too.

My wife does anal every now and then. I am not obsessed with it either.

I don't see how you think that you can give 25% and your husband gives 100%. Paying for EVERYTHING (especially while fighting a war) is putting into the relationship. The only thing that any other man should expect back is effort into the relationship. Refusing to do anal (or other things) that suck is not fair at all. I know that working to give all your money to your wife is not fair if she does not reciprocate.
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I know most soldiers over here risk their lives everyday in 140F weather with 3 layers of clothing/armor for 16 hours a day just to have their wife spend all the money and complain and yell they are not talking enough (with more than half of the wives cheating too). Do you think this is fair karen?

I can see you being one of these women... (maybe minus the cheating thing, cuz I 'hardly know you')

EDIT "treatment of her"??? WTF. You hardly know me. didn't you complain about that earlier. You obviously jumped to a conclusion before I did...

 

I never said that. I really don't know what it would be like to be financially supported 100% by someone else. I haven't been in that position since I was living under my father's roof. And there, he made 100% of the rules.

No, that doesn't sound right to me, and it doesn't sound like something I would do. I'm not a heartless person. I don't yell at my boyfriend when he is having a bad day, and I don't do anything behind his back.

If I was going to do anal for anybody, it would probably be for someone who was headed off to war. That's a situation that I can't compare to anything else, and I have never been in it. To be perfectly honest, I forgot for a few minutes where you are right now. I know you can't forget it for a second.

Whenever you have a spouse/boyfriend/whatever overseas in a dangerous and miserable situation, I think you owe it to them to be 100% supportive. Sex is only a small part of that.

What I said earlier applies to relationships in general, not your situation, which is unique and completely outside of my personal experience. I don't know the first thing about the dynamics of a military family.

 

Don't worry, no one does. That is why 80% of the families over here are getting separated. I know that because my wife is part of FRG (Family Readiness Group, she hears all the problems). So that is not a made up number.

I guess I was hurt by the OP's gf not doing it, but kind of realize that there are a lot of douche bag doods in the world. Thankfully I am not around them, so I guess I just expect that he tries for his gf too.

You know what I expect (if I wanted it) when I come back home? ANAL!!!

I am happy we had this convo though, you made me realize something. My marriage is in pretty bad shape because of the military life (luckly I will be out in less than a year). You made me realize a flaw in my system/belief. How can I expect her to reciprocate for what I am putting into the marriage right now?!? WTF. Am I a retard or something??? I think this might have been a big thing. I expect her to do more than she can because it is so hard for me. How can she though???

She works ~40 hours a week and goes to school full time... She is perfect! I KNOW that is really hard. Just because I know its not as hard as over here does not mean she isn't trying. What more could I possibly expect out of her??? Most the military wives don't work or go to school! Plus I know she is not cheating. ( at least thats how I feel...)

sheesh... You brought something to my eyes. That is just one more thing that will help me in this impossible time. Sometimes it seems like things in my life will never be ok. At least for the last 3 years... I am only here BECAUSE of her. blah blah. I am babbling.

But about the OP I expect after I am back that she puts in the effort I put in. Thats all. Treating the way you treat her is horrible though. Maybe if you were nicer it would work out. I think you were just posting like that cuz you were pissed off. I hope you don't really treat her like that. I guess I just don't expect people to actually do what they say on these forums.

I know that if I knew he was for real about things like "tears as lube" then I would bring down the horror directly upon him. This post is bringing out some serious emotion from me... Mainly anger/frustration.

EDIT Maybe not perfect... I am thinking on forum right now... She yells at me every time for weird shit when I call here.

 

My girlfriend digs anal. i think it has to do with whether or not you can make it feel good for them as well. Finger her and rub her clit while you do anal, and she may enjoy it. Always worked when I've done it.

 

Relationships are hard enough when you live in the same place!

You are doing some very difficult things, but she doesn't see it herself, and there's nothing she could do about it now anyway. Yeah, she has it rough too, but it doesn't equate to being shot at, or having people trying to blow your legs off with a bomb. Knowing that probably makes her feel bad about feeling bad, if you know what I mean.

Stress does bad things to people. She's not there for you, and you aren't there for her. There's no way that things will be good until you get the hell out of there. Now is just survival time.

When I look at my paycheck this month, I'll just pretend that all my federal taxes are going toward your pay. I won't feel bad about paying that. You've earned every penny you get, and more.

 

the thing is anal sex for a woman is painful at first. work with her slowly and then you two could have fun with it. get lube, toys and make her feel special about it.

 

As much as I hate to bring up the issue of penis size again, it does matter with anal. The thicker ones are much worse. You may have noticed that butt plugs and anal dildoes are thinner than vaginal dildoes. For me, one finger is the biggest thing that feels good back there.

 

I like how this thread turned around. I'm glad the mods did not lock it as requested, and to the man in Iraq/Afghanistan, may I say God bless you and your family for defending the freedoms that we still have. If you want to email me your APO/FPO info, my Mom and I will send you a care package. Just give a list of things you miss from home (snacks, whatever), and I'll help her put one together and send it out to you. She's been doing that for like 6 years now. All of her "extra" money goes to support packages, and I chip in what/when I can, usually with postage. It's the very least that we as the American public can do for you courageous, dedicated people. Well, that and pay our taxes like we should, and protest legislation that attempts to cut spending on military supplies/equipment. I mean, if we're not going to bring you home, the least this country can do is ensure that you're properly equipped, for God's sake.:cheers2:

My email is u n c l e p d o t 1 @ c h a r t e r . n e t

Remove the spaces, of course. ; )

Good luck and God bless. Keep your spirit high and your head down. : )

 

Good fuckin god.
That's only true at first man.
As another poster said you gotta work at it.
You don't just start fucking them, or they'll never be up for it again.
Work your way up ya know? Like 1 finger, then 2, then 3, etc.
Then you can have some fun .

 

i think you should drug her real good then go in for the kill nice and deep

 

Some girls just don't like it, no matter how it's done. I'm one of them. In fact, I've gone from very little anal sex to none at all, and that's the way it's going to be. My bf is okay with that.

 

Cool?
Spice it up a lil girl lol.

 

Don't believe everything you read and hear. Most the time it is lies to attract another person. He he.

If she thinks it is nasty or whatever then let her think it. Don't force it on her. If she doesn't want to do it she doesn't have to. Simple as that.

 

Guys, why do so many of you love anal so much? Do you find most cunts to be too loose?

 

Most men have never had anal sex, the thought may intrigue them as it is believed most men have some homoerotic tendencies.

Then there's guys who have had anal sex and loved it because as you point out, it was a tighter hole.

But there's also the idea of domination, and some doctors have noted many men do fantasize about rape, so domination in the form of anal sex is a turn on.

Plus this forum isn't exactly a census of the average person, most regular posters here have had more experience than the ordinarily man or woman.

 

Most men like it, or think they would like it, because it is a tighter hole and/or there is a feeling of doing something that is "forbidden" or "dirty" because you're sticking it up a girl's poop hole. That turns some guys on (and some girls who are receiving it too). I have no idea what having "homoerotic tendencies" has to do with it, lol. Anal play =/= homosexual.

 

Most men enjoy giving Anal Sex (be it Gay or Straight), quite simply because it's far tighter than the vagina & provides far more pressure against the shaft.

Many men, be they Gay, Bi, or just into Anal Masturbation (either alone, or with their partners) enjoy receiving Anal Sex because it provides direct stimulation to the prostate gland, which is to be found within the anal passage.

Women, on the other hand don't have a prostate gland. Their equivalent is the G-Spot, which is to be found in the vaginal wall. Because of this, unless they find the idea of being anally dominated by their partner to be mentally arousing, there is no real physical pleasure to provide any incentive for the woman to enjoy Anal Sex whatsoever.

 

Many women will beg to differ on the "no real physical pleasure" part. =P

 

The women have nobody to blame but themselves for allowing this situation to develop. I do my exercises, and my vaginal muscles can squeeze your dick so tight that it would be uncomfortable for you.

That makes me want to fantasize about murder.