Having trouble orgasming...old new, right?

Ive been through different threads over and again and still havnt found the answer im looking for. im 19 been having sex since 16, not that it matters...but ive never had or orgasm through penetration OR masterbation.

im scared that what I HAVE experienced was indeed an orgasm. which would suck because it wasnt mind blowing or anything like other females gossip about. so was it an orgasm? I know ive heard over and again "if you have ti ask, you hvnt had one." I hope i havnt though.

Whats happens is....everything is going good...it feels like im getting closer and closer then i stiffen up, it gets to the point and it feel good for like one second...then it gets too much to take. it hurts to touch anymore so thats it..nothing else.

i just read a post saying something like maybe im directly on my clit and i need to move to the side or top at the begining and THEN move to directly on the clit because im stimulating it too much, too fast and then i ends cause its too swollen and hurts. does this make sense?

someone please explain to me the first time they experienced one and PLEASE tell me I havnt had an orgam. otherwise..im doomed for a horrible sex life.

thanks.

 

anyone?

 

I can't tell you if there's something physically wrong with your body, but I've seen quite a bit of threads of girls in situations similar to yours. What I can tell you is a couple of ways I know of how to give girls stronger orgasms:

*Get it on with a sexpert . Doing it with a guy that knows the right timing, pressure, hand positioning, sensitive spots, kissing, etc really does make a difference. A guy that knows how to do this can make any girl scream, good luck finding one though.

*G-Spot. G-spot orgasms are known to be rly intense. Massage your g-spot or have some1 else do it for ya while u rub ur clit.

*Anal Sex. If done correctly, it's a girls favorite.

It's not much but I hope it helps. Good luck!

 

Zombielove - about 25% to 30% of women can get an orgasm from intercourse alone, 25% from intercourse with manual clitoral stimulation, 25% by manual stumulation alone, and 20% or so either never get an orgasm or get one rarely. I think those who don't are not really trying or have a very low sex drive. You want desperately to get one, and you may be trying too hard. Relax, take a few drinks or some weed beforehand (but not too much), and work on it, with or without a partner.

Or PM me, The G Spot Master, and I will teach you.

 

I think you may be just trying to hard and not relaxing. If haven't got one already, you may want to look into buying a vibrator. I was never able to give myself an orgasm until I got one, and then after my first one, I figured out how to let myself go. I started having orgasms about a year and a half before I had sex for the first time. I have been very lucky to have a boyfriend who cares very much for me and makes sure I have several orgasms during sex. I don't think this would be the case had I not allowed myself to relax and just let it happen.

 

I guess your all looking for the easy magic button, i can tell you all now its not like that, you have to put some effort into it.

Nothing comes easy.

This idea of constantly rubbing the clitoris or thrusting the fingers in and out violently just makes me laugh and cry, laugh because its so silly, cry because its so pathetic.

Women are not things to dominate, or coerce into sex for the fulfilment of your own sexual needs.

Learn to genuinly love another person, that means kindness, gentleness, thoughtfulness, tenderness.

When a man only thinks of his own needs the crap of his soul comes out, which is ugly, selfish, and abberated.

If your a girl or women you have to find a guy that is intelligent and sensitive and deep.

 

it takes lots and LOTS of practice to finger yourself and give yourself an orgasm, and it only works for me when i rub my clit really fast when i have that "urge, stiffen up" etc.

WHAT I SUGGEST IS:
Do you have a bath tub? Hopefully you do. You need to lay on your back and open your legs under the running water. I know it may sound silly, but the water pressure against your clit, your whole vagina even, is so unbelievably amazing.
If its too much pressure, turn it down!
Just think of mental images, and youre good to go. And after i orgasm i get sensitive, so i just quickly pull away from the water.
This is a good thing to do especially if you think your extreamly sensitive down there. Its gentle, and it works.
Let me know how it goes.

 

I suggest you Google the name "Betty Dodson".

 

I know people may have said it already but you need to relax. I know this because at one point I was like you as well. Thing would be so good and I would get so excited and then bam I would tighten up. I personally had the feeling I would pee. After I tighten up I would be super sensitve and worn out. I since then learned to take things slowly with myself during masterbation. I even tell the guys vocally what works what doesn't and keep at it if they are hitting it right. He he. Relaxation is key. It will take some time, but think how fun it is to even work on it. Hehe. Once I learned how to let go of that feeling to pee I learned I was a squiter and now I am set to go.