Typical question but is there a method to train yourself to last longer? I know there a ways to make yourself stay hard longer but what are ways to go longer without blowing your load? Because ive found once im aroused im very hard but holding back an orgasm is quite difficult and sometimes embarassing, does anyone have any training methods they use to last longer or control this arousal function that makes it near impossible to last.... a link to a program or write your own methods down
i have often asked the same question. only thing i can suggest is to think about something other then sex while ur masturbating or the stop and go method.
Orgasms come about quicker through masturbation quite simply because the hand tends to automatically increase the speed of the stroke to one much faster than would be feasible in actual sex, as well as applying increased pressure, squeezing the shaft as you approach the climax, and no matter how much you try, it still take a great deal of personal will power to control this. It is possible, with practice, to recognise the most subtle of sensations & use them to your advantage. I refer to my own method that I call 'The Dribbler'. To do this you need to take yourself to the point at which you feel the semen starting to rise, in that moment before orgasm, and then stop altogether, removing your hand from the penis. The semen will continue to be released, but without the force of an orgasm behind it (hence the name, 'Dribbler'). This will mean that after waiting for a couple of minutes you can start again, seeing as you haven't yet peaked. What's more, you can repeat it over & over again until you reach the point at which you can't hold back any further & have to let go for the ultimate orgasm which, incidentally, is absolutely mind-blowing. My personal best is 9 ejaculations - blowing on the the 10th. Alternatively, there is the Fleshlight. The best male masturbation device I have ever encountered - in fact, the only one I've found to actually have any value. With a bit of lube, this mimics the vagina, almost perfectly (especially if you warm it beforehand), and because of the hard plastic outer casing you are physically unable to change the pressure you might otherwise apply to the shaft, bringing you to a premature orgasm. Furthermore, you can either use the fleshlight as a hand held device, or wedge it between some cushions or something & treat it as if you were actually having sex, using only bodily thrusting to achieve the stimulation. Using this method also has the advantage of restricting the speed of the stroke, thus making you last longer. When guys first have sex (and I don't discount myself here), the most common mistake made is that they automatically assume that the physical act of having sex is identical to what they have been simulating with their hands up to this moment, and set about banging away nineteen to the dozen, usually resulting in reaching an orgasm in no time at all, whereas if you take each stroke as slow as you can, it will last much longer, and be far more satisfying for both parties concerned - The same rule applies to masturbation. Try and take it as slow as possible, and apply the absolute minimal amount of pressure that you possibly can.
