Bad Night

so i finally blew up last night, i waited up till 11and passed out. Finally Jason gets home at 12:37 and wakes me up cuz he wants to talk. keep in mind i was dead asleep and have to get up at 6am for work!!!!!​

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thought we had solved his, immature "i am too dumb to take care of this kids" problem and all was well​

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this morning my gramma calls me jason had sent our baby over there in a spiderman costume without socks or shoes (keep in mind it is fall here) all after i had washed him a nice outfit and layed it out for him to put it on the baby!!!!! i even wrote a note saying what jimi should wear and told him 3 times... ​

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so i had to leave work and go get his clothes, shoes, and socks so he woldnt go out looking like super trailer trash baby today!​

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I am super pissed!!!!!!!!​

 

Well I would be too.

 

that's harsh.

i'd be beyond angry.

 

You have every right to be pissed. I wouldn't tolerate neglecting the children. It's hard enough when we feel neglected HOWEVER children should never ever feel that way. Maybe your child doesn't feel that way being a baby but if your lil' one gets sick he'll be feeling something.

I can't stand to see lil' ones without shoes and socks on especially in this weather. I don't know about where you are but it's cold and damp here. Children & Adults are getting really sick. Mine keep coughing on/off and I have them dressed warm every day.

Did your talk have any outcome last night? Did you talk (using the word talk losely, probably yelling) to him today about your baby and having to leave work?

 

He needs a boot up his ass.

 

maybe the child wants to be a barefoot hippie like his parents? hmmm, did you ever think you were stiffling your childs freedom of expression?....you people make me sick.

 

hey now, he is only a year old and it is cold here. its ok for me to be barefoot in the cold but not him, i dont want him to get sick ​

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and peanuts he is trying to act like he doesnt even remember the conversation...........ehhhhhhhhhhhhhh​

 

Your close to your Mom. Have you talked with her at all about any of this? What does she say? What do all your friends say? Most importanly Funky what do you feel is right in your heart? You don't have to answer these questions. I know it's personal.

Only you know your limits and what is right for you and your children.

 

well my mom knows how i feel and i have friends who offerd to give us a place to stay untill i get my own place. i feel so bad for jason because i really think he doesnt understand how to be a husband or a parent. i think he was so shelterd by his family that he doensnt know how to function in the REAL world...........................

 

Do you think if you take action that it would force Jason to look at his situation more seriously?

Sometimes (not saying you do this at all) by us picking up the slack for our loved ones it really only enables them to make the same mistakes and not think for themselves. I have a few people like this in my own family.

I'm not suggesting leaving Jason permanetly. Maybe a seperation would be what you both need. Just so he can focus on what it is he actually has at stake here and who he might be losing in the process.

This can't be easy for you Funky. I admire you for being able to still take care of yourself, your children, and go to work while all this is going on. I think you are a strong person.

 

Thanks Peanuts, Thats Why I Want To Move Out For A While. To Get Him To Learn How To Take Care Of His Self!!

 

thats smart

 

A Spiderman costume? Damn, Robin.... hubby's struggling. I've taken Noah out in a lion costume a couple of times, but it's this fleecy material that keeps him really warm. Noah's father is incredibly irresponsible.... he hasn't really had any consequences or responsibilities since this whole thing started... so I guess I can kind of feel you. He just hangs out in Murfreesboro, going to school, drinking, and selling drugs.... he gives us $100 a month. I know your fella is at least trying.... well, more than Matt, at least. He probably would have dropped him off all hungover and tattooed. My poor baby!

 

Hey, have you guys LIVED together long. I mean like how long have you been doing the family thing under one roof? I guess what I'm getting at is if he feels like he is the head of the house and that he should be the mane provider, and all that, he may be a little depressed about not being able to give the fmily everything he feels they deserve. Guys are funny like that. A loving father can get really depressed when he has to see his family do with less than he feels they deserve. And depressed people make bad decisions like sending a kid out in a spidey costume.

 

Funky I love you!! I just had to say that first.

I know how it is to be in a relationship but still sometimes feel like you're a single parent (with full grown man as one of your kids) and I get so pissed off sometimes. Sprout isn't a bad guy, I'm sure jason isn't either. We get into these big fights about what he SHOULD be doing (or doing less of, like staying up all night with his buds) and he seems to think I'm making him pick between us or his friends.....but it's not like that. I usually have to get other people to take me to do important shit like Doc appointments and all because he usually won't do it. Honestly I wouldn't know what to tell you....I could say leave him but then I'd be a hypocrite because I haven't left mine yet and I really don't want to I just wish he'd realze that he's not 16 anymore and we have a family to raise, and that should come first.

 

i swear to god sprout and jason are the same guy LOL
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lyns, we have lived together for almost 3 years now................................ and from about month two things went all to hell............... i just keep hangin on, dont know what is wrong with me maybe i have co-dependancy problems!

 

And I have promises to keep....

 

i find that 20 something men dont do the parenting thing well... they are torn between childhood and adulthood.so there we are stuck raising another child who happens to be adult.

 

Some men like my father never grow up. He has never been into drugs and has always had a steady job but he acts like a child in all other areas.....spends money we dont have....cant handle any finances because he is either to idiotic or just irresponsible. Whines and complains to my mom....and expects her to take care of him. He loves it. Its weird how they almost have a parent-child relationship.
Anyway, funky I wish you the best. Sometimes we need to take drastic measures to see drastic changes. I hope everything works out for you!