Is sex a big deal?

For a long time I've considered sex to be just two (or more :tonguepeople having fun, with the potential to be an extremely intimate and special experience with the right person. Generally, though, just a bit of fun.

Recent events in my life have caused me to question this mentality, however, and I would like other people's opinions.

 

Sure sex is a big deal. Maybe I should say sexuality is a big deal. If I didn't have sex on a semi-regular basis I would be such an utter bitch the likes of which you probably have never seen. I need to get laid at least once, preferably twice a week or it's like I start getting less and less fun to be around.

That's for me though and I'm a fairly sexual person. I have met people who were almost totally asexual and I imagine it means a far less deal to them.

 

Assuming that we are talking about safe sex, its significance is whatever the two participants attach to it.

 

Sex isn't a big deal to me, but I'm one of the few guys that doesn't need sex or cares to have sex constantly.

 

Can we please have that post deleted... Have that dood banned too.

 

i rather have a fat bag.... Woman are nothing but trouble

and the hairy asshole doesn't appeal to me

 

I don't really see it as a big deal myself.It adds that little extra something to a relationship but it's definitely not necessary all the time.Neither is it something for me to freak out over if I don't get it always.I've never been the one to sleep around so I don't know what its like to have sex outside a relationship.I'm sure it would be a bigger deal for me though.lol

 

Yea, it's kinda a pretty big deal

 

It's only a big deal if you catch something or get pregnant.

 

Hahah, I hear you :cheers2:

 

well w/o it there would b no people--so its pretty essential

 

Doesn't matter. Do what you can to remember those fun times. You'll look back on those fun times a lot differently if someone you were with, no matter how long ago and how briefly, is suddenly gone for good.

 

haha, QFMFT...
Sex/women are definitely not a big deal to me, i would rather have drugs:sifone::chillpill::tongue: lol
Im the type of guy that doesn't need any of it (relationships, sex, women in general, etc). Women bring too many problems. There ya go.

 

well, sure it's a "big deal." fucking with a person you really love is one of the top two or three experiences in life. that doesn't mean you can't fuck without being in love, but it's a different kind of experience.

 

its only a big deal if your not getting it I guess. I look on sex as a lot of fun

 

I was fishing a bit with this thread..
I meant is it a big deal, as in, if you sleep with someone, is that a significant event?

Specifically, I was trying to find out if, let's say you were really into someone/had a casual relationship with someone, and then you slept with someone else for a bit of fun, would that be a big deal to you? Would you feel guilty, or was it just two grown people having harmless fun?

I think NotDeadYet nailed it though, and I found peace in his answer - it has the significance you attach to it and that is very subjective.

 

Freud and Jung believe that sex is the ONLY thing that makes this reality more 'real' than the others. Simply because it is the only 'real' physical interaction between two people. When two people hug or touch, their not really touching. You have to read more about it for yourself if your interested. I'm too lazy to give a proper explanation but it is VERY interesting. If people stopped fucking mankind would seize, our 'souls' or true selves or 'minds' would leave our bodies due to we would have no anchor to this reality. We would move on the whatever else is out there. Very cool. Anyways, I don't think sex is a big deal. I personally have practised celibacy for a length of time and mixed this with the use of psychedelics and have found it MUCH MUCH easier for me to leave my physical body. My two cents. Peace and Love

 

I agree. In general it's not a big deal, just fun.

I think it has potential to be a "big deal," but it's not the sex itself that makes it significant, it's the type of bond between the two people, or whatever you want to call it.

 

I think it;s the biggest deal, if sex isn't great in a relationship, I'm not interested. That being said, sex has always been best with someone I loved. You can learn to please someone, and the sex gets better with time if you both put the effort into it, to love each other.

 

Exactly.