Yesterday, I had a performance, my first for a long time, I told my boyfriend a month in advance and he said he would come, the day of the performance, talked to me A LOT, which he usually doesn't, and that night, I called him right before my call time, he said he was still doing homework, and he said he was coming. I went through the first act of the show, come intermission, I looked for him, he wasn't there, my friend texted him and he texted back, when the show ended that "he couldn't make it," I was really looking forward to seeing him. He is my first boyfriend, and this is the first time we would see each other outside of school, and he didn't show up. I'm his first girlfriend, and he is really shy, he doesn't talk to me much. I'm just mad that he didn't even have the decency to call me and tell me he can't make it, I bet he wasn't even going to tell me, just going to let me get my hopes up and crush my heart when I needed him most. My parents didn't even come, and afterwards I walked home by myself at 9:00PM. I was so sad, mad, and confused, I didn't eat dinner. He just ruined the whole night for me, the performance was supposed to be fun, but instead, I waited for him, and during intermission, I sat backstage alone. I was Juliet in "Romeo and Juliet," I had the lead role, and no one came...
Aw, man. That was shitty of him. Maybe he had his reasons, but come on. He told you he'd be there and this was important to you. The polite thing to do would've been to call you. That's sucks even your parents didn't go. I play piano and I used to have recitals every year. I know how you feel, wanting people to be there. My parents always came; they only ever missed one each I think as long as I took lessons (12 years).
You are lucky. When I was in the school orchestra, my parents missed my concert. Then, when my band had our debut, they didn't come, they said our music is weird. At least you have someone to support you. My parents don't and neither does my boyfriend.
Was there a good reason he was a no show ? If not you should voice how you feel to him. How you were hurt and how important it was for you that somebody came. Don’t yell at him or give him the guilt trip – just gently voice your feelings. Let him know where you are coming from. It is good to do this as sometimes people under estimate the importance of certain things in their loved one’s life. Once people discover how important things are to you – they generally make more of an effort - if they truely care enough...
