Weeks ago me & my best friend went out to celebrate his girlfriend's party. I agreed to come on the offside he ended up getting pissed (which he did) so I could calm him down or still let him have a good time. Anyway, one of his friends was very attractive and I immediately took a liking to her. So, he uses my phone the next morning to text his girl and the girl I like happens to have the phone, and she tells him that we can be cool & that's it. I'm like ok and I just keep going about my business, and a few weeks later my friend says I should still try to go for her. So, we ended up seeing her & his gf and hanging out with them, and we talk and seem like we're going down the route I want, but she keeps saying she only sees me as a friend. Her best friend (my friend's gf) & my friend think I'm perfect for her and tried to get us together but she kept saying I was just a friend. I wanted to get people's insight and see if there may be a real reason behind it because I presented myself as best I could and was as nice as possible and still really like her but it's like she doesn't care what so ever. Should I just drop it and keep moving? Nobody has tried hooking us up anymore but I still think about it from time to time.
Have you tried hooking yourself up with her? You should try to woo her and be somebody that she can see potential of beyond-just-friends
I've talked to her and tried to get to that level but she doesn't see it for some reason, and I've been ultra nice.
There could be something to it that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Is she in a position right now where she doesn't want a boyfriend or is trying to get through some things on her own? Or maybe there's someone else she's interested in.
The fact of the matter is that most women dont find "nice" men attractive. They want someone who is strong, and that can provide for them. You can't be a pushover.
I'm not going to act like a dick to impress a girl, I'm strong when I need to be, and nice when I need to be, but I'm not going to put on an act.
dont worry all girls "secretly" love their guy friends anyway--so its just a matter of time b4 u get her
I hope you're right but at the same time I kind of doubt it because she may be moving in the summer, so there's a large chance things won't change, but you never know.
Yes, it does....wait, what the hell? *passes out* Seriously speaking though, do you think she may have a much different reason for not wanting to date me?
Just be a friend to her too. If she is with someone else now, then just sit it out but don't ignore other 'potentials' on the horizon. As for the nice guys finish last... where are all the nice guys ???? I haven't seen any about for a very long time. I do think that if you are a bit ruthless in life and don't care who you step on to get places, then you will get more things in life, but then, I am classed as a 'nice' girl and sometimes feel that the world is so dis-disillusioned with itself, that it doesn't even know what 'nice' is any more. I say just hang in there - be a friend, and that way, if anything is meant to happen, it will have the potential to happen if things go wrong in her current relationship. Just make sure you don't end up as the rebound guy!
I definitely don't want to be a rebound guy, but her current bf is cheating on her, and my friend keeps telling her if she was with me, she wouldn't have to worry about that problem, which is completely true, but for now I guess I'll talk to her here and there, and see where it takes me. Thanks.
First, guys and girls brains differ in that girls feel, an us guys kinda think in "logical" steps. (Sorry to generalise so much). So often in this situation us guys will be really nice, and be there for her, and give her stuff thinking that if we show her how much WE'RE into HER, that she'll start wanting us. Don't do the nice thing to the point of looking like you've got no direction of your own. She'll get bored and feel smothered. And you DO have direction, aims, wants and all that crap. Don't hide it from her, or she won't respect you. Google "nice guys heartless bitch.com" and read that view...
