I know I need to be on anti depresants. but am 11 weeks pregnant, and I want to keep what little sex drvie I have left. I am not suicidle. Haven't been in quit a long while. Because I am not suicilde I have just been dealing with it myself. But I know that it is affecting my life horrabbly in other ways. I have become motavationaly challanged, in everything I do. Is there anything I can do to help myself without any drugs?
Exercize (did I spell that right? Doesnt look right for some reason,hmmmmm) anyway, that is not only good for your body but also great for your brain. It relieves stress and releases happy hormones. When I am upset or depressed or angry I go for a long walk and I always come back feeling better. Actually I have been walking on a daily basis and I can tell it's having a positive effect on me.
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Going off anti-depressents is tough, eh? I'm in the process of being weaned myself, it ain't pretty. Have you talked to your doctor? What about counselling? Are you able to go to a counsellor? BTW, I'm not trying to be a bitch Michael, but telling someone with depression to be happy and not have depressed thoughts is like telling an anorexic just go have a snack already.
Thanks all for all your comments. Not counting the past two weeks, excercise was the only thing constant I did. See with my last pregnancy I was on bed rest the last 2 months of it, from High BP. So to make sure it dosen't happen again, I started going to the gym 3 to 5 days a week. But my mom was up visting for a week, then both our cars broke down in the same day, so I didn't have a way for a week. Today will be my first day back, I am looking forward to it. What I mean by motavationaly challanged is, that I never finnish anything. I only clean my house to be livable. I think I sould play with my kids more. Sometimes there is nothing you can do to get me out of the house. For some reson I am feeling really retarted writeing all of this.
I understand how you are feeling. I dealt with depression through my pregnancies, and I also dealt with PPD and PTSS. It's very difficult, and you need a lot of emotional support and understanding. There were days where I didn't feel like getting out of bed, I couldn't function. It's really not abnormal for you to be depressed during pregnancy. Your hormones are all out of whack, and although you're excited about your new little one on the way, you are also fearful of the responsibilty and work that will go along with it. When I was pregnant with my twins, I was a wreck some days. I didn't know how on earth I was going to manage. My son was 3.5 years old at the time, and I was so busy with all of my numourous prenatal appointments that I felt guilty because I wasn't focusing on him at all. Then, the day after I gave birth to my twins, I had 5 grand mal seizures, my BP was stroke-level high, I had Toxemia and H.E.L.L.P. syndrome, which is extremely rare. I was unconscious, and woke later that evening in the ICU. They weren't sure that I was going to make it. My whole body was shutting down on me, and I had 3 mini-strokes. I was in the hospital for nearly 2 weeks. My poor son was tossed from one family member to the next during this time as my husband stayed by my side. My son had always been used to being with me so it was very difficult for him. I felt awful that I wasn't able to be with him, and I felt awful because I was seperated from my twins. I was overwhelmed with guilt. But things worked out. I still deal with depression. It's very hard for me to get out of the house with the kids, and I feel isolated much of the time. There are days when I don't feel like doing much of anything either. I do take an anti-depressant, and it helps a bit, but the best thing for me is getting out, as hard as it can be. What I found that helped me with depression during my pregnancies was activity. Get outside, breathe in the fresh air, take a walk. It's invigorating. Try and do things to keep yourself and your mind busy. The more you sit around, the more depressed you will feel. If you truly feel that your depression is unbearable, there are certain meds that are supposedly safe to take while pregnant. I myself never took any, as I avoided any type of medications while pregnant, but I do know that there are some that are supposed to be safe. You are dealing with a lot and if you need help, don't be afraid to ask for it. You need to take care of yourself. A happy mommy makes for happy kids. Maybe it would help to talk to someone too. Just know that you're not alone, and please don't feel guilty. You can get yourself out of this slump, and you might have to work hard at it, but I'm sure you can do it. Like I said, keep busy, maybe start a new hobby, or renew an old one. Go for walks, get out and about, even when you dson't really want to. It will help. Definitely talk to your doctor about how you're feeling as well. Good luck and hang in there. It will get better. Big Hugs...
Hippychickmommy can you pm me or something? I need to talk with someone and you're like the wisest, most honest person here in my opinion. I need to talk with someone like you!
Both Zoloft and Paxil are safe for breastfeeding and pregnancy. Many damages to you come from untreated depression. Just the fact that you "aren't suicidal" doen't mean that harm isn't coming to you from your untreated depression. Also, children raised by untreated depressive mothers have a huge amount of emotional and even growth problems. Failure to Thrive is drastically more common in the children of untreated depressives. You OWE it to your baby to be treated. It isn't just you anymore. Please get helo and get back on one of the safe antidepressants. You and your baby will have a better life. It isn't fair to your baby to have you in a black hole while he or she is trying to learn what the World is all about. All that baby will learn is that the World is a gray sad place. It is quite unfair. Please get treated. Blessings.
How can thoughts both be created by chemical secretions in the brain, and fill your brain with chemical secretions? Am I missing something? Thought is much more involved than just neurotransmitters. Take the meds. They are safe. I dispense them all the time to pregnant women, especially Zoloft. I have had one patient who decided she wanted to be "natural," and quit her Zoloft about a month before delivery. She experience such severe post partum depression that she commited suicide weeks after childbirth. Suicide, and depression in general, presents a much higher risk to your children than medications.
