Whats the point of getting our hopes up?

Yeah it's crushing when it doesn't work out. Totally crushing, and hurts more than anything else. But I agree with those who said it makes you stronger in the end. And it doesn't always end badly -- sometimes it IS perfect and stays that way. But I think most importantly, when you could get crushed, that's when you know it IS that absolutely peak incredible love. It's terrifying when it's that intense, but doesn't it have to be when you're that in love and care so much? I think that's the point.

 

you will be well ahead of the game called life, if you give up on all relationships right now!
i have seen over and over again, that the longer one lives (into their 70's, 80's, 90's, etc.) that,the vast majority of people give up on relationships all together.
the reason for that is because, everyone keeps dying off so quickly and, it is just not worth all the pain involved in forming new relationships.
now, after saying that depressing shit, let me add, that it is known, that for that small minority of people in later life, who do keep making new relationships with others, that their lives are better off every way around for it.

don't get your hopes up! don't get your hopes down! don't think positive! don't think negative! master your own mind! don't let your mind be your master!
that is where your problem lies, in, that, you are the slave of your own mind.
if you learn to control your mind, then your life will work one hell of alot easer!

how to do that. first, get a copy of the book: "feeling good," by jerry burns. second, get burns other book: "the feeling good handbook." third, consider going to a psychologist and, working with them to learn how to use cognitive therapy.
with those two books and the help of a psychologist who has trainning in cognitive therapy, you will be able to control your mind, instead of your mind controlling you.

that mate, is your problem right there with relationships!
your mind is running wild and you don't know how to control it. once you learn how to control your thinking, you will then be able to make relationships work far, far, far, better for you and you will be one hell of a much happer person too!