Need to tell ppl, HELP

ok, i need advice. we wer at my friends house 2 nite and had a kind of party.. a girl i just broke up with a few days ago turned up. we had just had a long relationship and i still had strong feelings for her in a way :/ well we wer out the back smoking a blueberry blunt (which was very enjoyable) when my supposedly best m8 walked over to my ex and they started making out. i got really pissed off and every1 was asking me what was wrong.
well im a bit drunk/stoned but i really feel like shit.
do i have a right to be angry? or am i just over-reacting?

 

I wouldn't be mad at your friend. Be happy for him for making out with her. lol I'm sure he didn't do it to piss you off, and he was probably drunk too. Am I right? It would be different if you and her were still together, in which case, I'd be mad at the ex, but it's not worth it to lose your best friend just because he was too drunk, or just didn't have enough will power to pass up the chance to make out with a female.

 

So you're friend is making out with her? Yea it's wrong-but it's also your best m8.

Which is more important her or him. Yea it's not cool-but if you take the higher road-1) You'll still have a m8 2) You'll look like the better man 3) You'll be a better person for it.

Yea he's not being cool. And he may not deserve a person like you-but in a few weeks you'll feel a lot better about him and you'll feel really good about yourself.

You'll have lots of girls that you'll break up with-you'll only have a few good friends in life.

 

That is the most important thing to remember.

It's not worth it to hold it against your friend, when you and her probably would've broken up anyway, eventually. You can still let him know that it hurt you, but I wouldn't hold it against him if I were you.

 

thanks for the replies guys. i will forgive my m8 but tbh i feel REALLY FUCKIN ANGRY at her. because my friend apoligised straight away (we promised we would never go with eachothers exs) and she said ''im single i can do wat i want''

 

There's a good lesson here tonight. I don't know how old you are-but you could learn an important lesson about life here tonight. And you could be a very different (new and better) person tomorrow.

 

''im single i can do wat i want''-You're angy and you're hurt-and you should be. Don't let her bother you tomorrow. Again I don't know you but it sounds like you're the better person. Be the better person.

Don't "pay her any bother". Yea talk to her, talk about the weather, school, the time. But that's about it. She's not worth it and even trying to explain it to her isn't worth it. She's just one of the of the people in a world with billions of other people .

 

Good advice.

She obviously doesn't care as much about you as you care/cared about her. That's not meant to insult you or anything. It's meant to point out the type of person SHE is. She's obviously not worried about your feelings, so you shouldn't worry about the situation. It's probably even a good thing that it happened, because I guarantee it will make it easier for you to get over her, now that you know what kind of person she is and that she isn't worth your time. Let it go and move on.

Your friend, on the other hand, at least cares enough about you to apologize, so he definitely deserves another chance to prove is loyalty.

 

yeah i think ill just smoke a blunt, go to bed n forget about her. thanks v.much for the help friends.. i feel better already

 

No problem dude. Just enjoy your blunt and feel better. Mary Jane is the only girl you need anyway:sifone:

 

Just enjoy your blunt and feel better. Mary Jane is the only girl you need anyway

^^probably the most beautiful piece of advice.. EVER!!

 

meh, i'd be pissed.

but then again i'm a teenage girl and we get mad over everything

a somewhat, yet not really, similar situation happened to me and i didn't talk to my "friend" for a year... we just started talking/being friendly again a month or so ago. what she did wasn't very friendly though, and i figured i don't need friends like that.

 

well it seems like I just missed out on the story.

 

yea i'd be pissed at my friend, but i'd probably keep it to myself. actually a similar thing happened to me. i had a gf for like three years and one of my best friends dated her after we broke up. granted i live in a pretty small town so there aren't many girls to choose from, but "bros before hoes"

and to add to it, i had a chance to get with one of his exes, before he got with mine, and i didn't. i thought, man that used to be his gf, i can't do that. he had no similar thoughts. he's a bad friend anyway, i wouldn't expect any better from him.

so i say you have the right to be mad....but don't let it ruin your friendship. and your ex is right, she is single, and she can do what she wants. still it's messed up that she gets with your friend probably just (or partly) to hurt you.

 

If my boy made out with my ex, i'd beat the fuckin shit outta him, cause well he fuckin knows better. Bros b4 Hoes. Thats a line you dont cross, you dont fuck with your boys sisters, and your boy doesnt fuck with your ex. Simple as that.

 

"Bros befor hoes" also applies to not getting pissed off at your friend for trying to get some pussy, even if it's with your ex because, 9 times out of 10, they're only doing it for the pussy.

Plus, your friend could be getting revenge on your ex for hurting you. He could just being using her for the pussy, only to dump her and hurting her feelings for treating you like shit. lol That's a good friend

 

Still a low blow to do that shit though.

 

wow, I have nothing to add, everything I wanted to say has been said. well put kevinH and TNS :cheers2:

 

I think TopNotch is my favorite forum member.

 

hahaha I don't see why you feel that way, but I certainly appreciate the sentiment