hello everyone! i've been having a secret crush on a co-worker of mine for a few months now, and yes she is gay. the thing is, i dont think she knows that i've feelings for girls. because at work everyone including her take the fact that im straight. i just recently accept the fact that i've feelings for women, so all this is still pretty new to me. there are times when i try to throw little hints out that i'm not into men, but im not sure if she gets it or not. the girl that i like, she is really nice and friendly, we've hung out a few times, we text each other almost everyday. but every now and then she would tells me about her ex and that she hung out with her ex and all, i'm not sure if she is trying to test me to see if i've feelings for her or not. sometimes i think i can sense that she has feelings for me, but then i'm not too sure. she just told me that one of her ex might wants to get back with her, and she is willing to give the relationship a try. i was bummed out. i wanted to tell her my feelings for her, but then i'm afraid if she say she dont like me that way, we might be very awkward toward each other, since we work together its gonna be even worse! i really don't know wat to do at this point, can anyone help me out please?
I'm kind of going through the same thing except the girl knows how I feel towards other girls but not her. And luckily for me she doesn't want to get back with her ex. But I think you need to tell her before it's too late and you lose out on the opportunity. You only get one life to live and do you want to live with the 'What if' factor staring you in the face for the rest of your life? I feel that if tell her and just slide it in a convo without making it a big deal, if she likes you back she should get the hint, if she doesn't then maybe since you didn't make a big deal out of it, it wont be. Tell he either way that you don't want to lose your friendship. if i think of anything else i'll try to help you out. i need to take my own advice. haha.
hii, thanks a lot! yea i guess i'll have to find time and talk to her about it. i really don't want her to get back with her ex cos of the cruel things her ex did to her. she's a great girl and i really cant stand it to see her getting hurt the second times around
