**[HELP!]** I might as well just saw that damn thing off...

Hi People!

It's gonna be very hard for me to write about this, I am so humbled...

I have found the love of my life. She looks to me like the most beautiful thing in the world, everything she says makes me crazy, her body is amazing and the way she loves me makes me wonder if it's all a dream.

I had a few loves before but never like this. I had sex with some girls but no one got me so horny and so hungry for her like this one.

Everytime I think of her, I get jackhammer-hard. The same thing everytime we touch, kiss, smell.

So I took her to some nice place, and things got real hot at some point and I wanted to get in, for the first time in our relationship.

And...

Just when my thing touched her's, it was like a balloon popping. All that hardness just went away. It was really sad because I actually started penetrating while there was a little blood left in it and I could see her move and it was so good but my boy didn't want to play...

She tried to revive it but nothing.

Next day we tried again. We filled a big bath and we kissed for hours, during which, I was hard like Tungsten and I felt a little pride coming back because I know she felt it. At some point she asked me to put it in and I thought the problem from yesterday was a fluke and I tried to go in and again:

When my thing touched her's, it went flacid.

I mean, I am 23 years old, for crying out loud!!! I can jack off 5 times a day from just thinking about her. Why can't I just have sex with her?

 

I am not on any drugs or alcohol.
I am physically active (long distance running)

I don't feel very hot compared to her although she keeps telling me I am the hottest guy she knows.

 

Are you sure your not gay?

 

Absolutely sure I am not gay.

 

I mean, I know it's some performance anxiety + tough life in general combo but what can I do about it?

 

I really feel for you. This is the worst depressing feeling. This happened to me half a dozen times early in my sex life, when I was about your age.

It took me a long time to get better. Now I have a great sex life. Hopefully, I can give you some advice that will help.

I think the number one reason this is happening to you is that you care too much. You want nothing more in the world than to please this woman, and that's good, but it puts an enormous amount of pressure on you and your penis. You also think the worst thing in the world is for your penis not to work, because you'll be rejected as inadequate. Pressure, pressure.

These are powerful feelings and you can't just make them go away. (One of the best things about being my age is that you worry a lot less about things like this, because you've learned that things work out.)

I think the best advice for you at this point is to take some pressure off your penis by realizing that you can give her fabulous orgasms with your fingers and your tongue. Do it. Once you realize that she's pleased with you even when your penis isn't involved, you might start to relax. Erections happen when your mind isn't invited to the party.

I might also recommend you take a tranquilizer. If you are like me, your energy level is so high, that the tranquilizer will simply bring your anxiety down enough so that penetration will be successful.

For me, this problem happened every time I was with a new woman for years. It was awful. But -- good news -- every time I had a second chance (and I was only totally rejected once) penetration was successful and I think it was because I knew that she had seen me at my worst and still hadn't rejected me.

Don't beat yourself up! This is happening only because you want to please her sooooo much.

 

I absolutely agree. If you do a search on this forum you'll find more threads from people who had this problem. They got over it and so will you.

 

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