My "Boyfriend"

My Boyfriend is really shy, he told me it took him 2 years to build up the courage to ask me out. It's been a week since he asked me out, but we haven't gone out, he hasn't even hugged me or held my hand. What do you think is up?

 

well, if it took him 2 years to ask you out...imagine how long it will take him to actually touch you?

looks like you're going to have to be the agressor

 

2 yrs! damn-u must REALLY LOVE him if u waited 2 yrs for him
now hes playing hard 2 get-- if u seem 2 anxious the girl will loose interest--so i think he MIGHT b playing it cool---

 

Rape him.

 

Kiss the dude, break the ice, it will reinforce that you are into him. It sounds like he may be unsure what to do next. You females can be intimidating, especially when we really want you. If you really like him then make a move on him and set him at ease. He should be more aggressive with you going forward.

 

I thought I was shy as a teenager but not in comparison with him. Looks like you're going to have to take the initiative.

 

That reminds me of when I was like 14, I went out with this girl and after a couple of weeks no nothing, so she broke up, later found out she wanted me to, hug kiss hold hands, the whole thing!

Now I think If only I would have tapped it..

I hope this guy youre talking about is like 14 because that behaviour is not acceptable older then that.. unless youre dating the new 40 year old virign

 

All my early "relationships" in the 14-17 range were like this. I was good at missing the blindingly obvious, or freezing up when I thought she wanted me to do something. I just could never be sure, and I didnt want to do something wrong. But I mean, it was bad sometimes. In 7th grade my GF at the time, who was in 9th (woot older women right?) and had huge breasts literally threw me down on the bed, straddled me, and gave me an insanely hot kiss, and I had NO FREAKING idea what to do. I froze. Big ol titties right there, inches from my face, hot athletic young vulva grinding on me, and I didnt know what to do. Seems ludicrous to me now, outright insanity, but it happened.

My older brother shagged her rotten two days later

My point is this - we(guys) can be really stupid, and really needy in the encouragement department, especially when we are really into someone. This guy sounds like he needs to be told whats going on, and encouraged alot. This is a GOOD thing, because it means he is already more concerned about pleasing you than himself, and will be much more open to establishing healthy communication early on.

 

My first love respected me too much to make the first move. I had to. Sometimes guys just prefer the girls take the initiative.

 

my boyfriend was kinda like that.. not to that extreme but it took him a while to make a move. we were seeing eachother, even slept in the same bed a few times before he ever kissed me. he'd snuggle and hold my hand but later he told me he waited so long for the kiss because he didnt want to rush me. i think its sweet but damn it was so hard to not pounce on him in the meantime!

 

hey, give the guy a break... i mean two freakin years!

give him a cuddle, if he responds by cuddling u back, then he was just shy.

if he doesn't do anything then maybe he feels awkward...

u could ask him about it

 

either he is gay, has SP aka S.A.D (look it up) or his extremely shy...

all of which you have good advice here to find out which it could be.

sometimes simple and direct is better - try talking to him about it.

 

Yeah, The "problem" could only be with him


Gnikus, we need more info, ages and such, how do you know he wants you to be his girlfriend as opposed to a girl friend?

 

Totally. I'm a very shy person and, for us, it'll take a while.

 

We are both 14, he is my first boyfriend and I'm am his first girlfriend. We were friends for 4 years before he asked me, and now, he ALWAYS looks at me, it gets creepy some times, and when I talk to my other guy friends, he gets really uncomfortable and tries to divert my attention from them to him. When he "talks" to me, he gets really sweaty and... has a lack of words, if you will, (which means he barely talks.) but he always makes sure he says bye to me, or walks me out the door, then says bye, but if he forgets, he goes and finds me and says bye; and when we see each other in the hallway, he always smiles and says a very awkward,"hello," it's so funny. There, I think those are good enough reasons why he wants me to be his girlfriend, but It's Easter Break now, and he hasn't called me, IM-ed me, and/or we haven't seen each other, I miss him, should I call him?

P.S. My name is GNIKNUS, and don't you roll your eyes at me, (Joking) thanks for writing-GNIKNUS

 

CALL HIM........NOW.!!!...:toetap05:



Cheers Glen.

 

Call him...

 

CALL HIM..!!.



Cheers Glen.

 

GNIKNUS, at 14, relax, no rush to be bf/gf that is

and yeah, call him

 

Are you sure? Does it seem too... clingy?