Hi, I recently met this guy who we agreed to be friends with no sorta string attached. When we are together, we talk like friends talk however, the night usually turns in to making out and oral sex. I have recently told him that I realize this was suppose to be a n/s/a friendship but I have stronger feelings for him, we made out again. He has sent me text messages that all he has to offer is friendship. He also tells me he wants to live a life a little as he just got out of a 7 years relationship. At the same time, he told me he tried to date someone since then and it didn't workout. He also has sent me text messages saying, "Been thinking about you, have a great day my friend". He also sends me a text message saying, "I have never told a guy this before, but I want to have n/s/a sex with you when the time is right". In addition he tells me he thinks about me a lot. My point is, he sends me very mixed vibes. I have never been so confused. I have very strong feelings for him. Actually, I have allowed myself to become vulnerable and fall in love with him to the point he is always on my mind. Since I am new to the gay lifestyle, I am very confused and do not know what to do. I love him, but I do not want to ruin a friendship at the same time by trying to take things too far. Please Help!!! Thanks!
I don't think those are mixed vibes at all.... he just got out of a relationship he tried dating someone, didnt work out- he's not ready for that wants to live a little calls you "friend" has clearly stated he wants n/s/a fun and friendship.... I think you may be looking too deep, I think he's made it pretty clear what he wants and what he doesnt want....
While I def. have looked at this from all angles. And yes, it seems the writing is on the wall. Why would a "friend" who says "been thinking about you"? Also, tell me he thinks about me a lot. I can see and understand what he says but I also am wondering why these other remarks are said that can lead a person to think more. Especially the making out, etc.. Thanks for your reply, it was appreciated.
Hmmm N/S/A is all he is going to offer it seems if you want more break it off with him and find a guy who wants more ....or two guys that want more and fix me up with one of them too ...lol
He is not ready for any committment. He wants a n/s/a and he has that with you. Take your time, and do not push your envelope. If you really want a BF now, look for someone else. KD
