Would you ever date someone you didn't find attractive at all, because there was no one else available at the moment, and because he/she treated you right? If so, how would you break it to them when you find someone you want to be with more? And, say you were dating the "mercy Date" and the one you wanted...but the mercy date treated you better...who would you stick with and why? And would you afford losing the mercy date knowing the there was a big chance it wouldnt work out with the one u really wanted? Just wondering...
Absolutely not thats the worst thing you can ever possibily ever do to someone turn the tables around - how would you feel!!
No. I would much rather be single than date someone that I would qualify as "filler". If you get along with that person and you do not find them attractive in the dating sense, that is what I call a friend.
many guys here would take a mercy date over no date..i am of course taking this to the next level..mercy sex...I have probably been on the receiving end of mercy sex...I got over it....Never underestimate a young mans desire to get laid...also sometimes people think they are the mercee when in fact they are the mercor..or the other way around
Has anyone ever tried to date someone who was a decent person, but you just weren't into them romantically? Did you dump them, and if so how? How did that person take it? Do you think there is any chance of still being friends with that person, or when you dump them will they pretty much be done with you all together??
My last girlfriend was like that with me. She was a really nice, great person, but I just couldn't seem to really get into her romantically (which didn't make for the best sex). After about two months, we broke up. I was just honest with her. I told her how awesome I thought she was, but it just wasn't going to work out romantically. She was bummed, but she took it well and today we are still extremely good friends. We talk just about everyday and hangout at least once a week. Be honest and be supportive in telling him/her and be sure to emphasize that it's nothing personal and you want to remain friends, show a bit of remorse too - that's always something that lightens the mood, I think.
Yep, I just finally told him we were just not compatible, and that was it. Granted, I was 15...but we're still friends 7 years later. He's actually the only ex I really stay in touch with.
I think if it's all above board then it could be ok, but not if they don't know that's what's happening... From my experience it's about the harshest emotional blow, finding out someone you are into in a big way is only with you until the next best thing comes along. That's just cold man!
It sucks being the mercy date, so I would never do it. I found out that my first boyfriend only dated me because he was waiting for his ex to be single again. And then he had his sister break up with me for him. That's real great for the selfesteem.
Bad idea. Suspect not uncommon though, as I've known people who really struggle to cope with being single. Others will do so simply to have sex on a regular basis.
lol....mercy dating?! not a chance in hell............ like treehugger said, what's wrong with being single? why fuck with someone's emotions because you have co-dependency issues?! dont rely on someone to make you feel good about yourself.... that is YOUR responsibility... dating is a waste of time until you're comfortable and happy in your own skin.
