What do you want in a friend?

I'd comment on that.But it'd probably be misinterpreted and cause some irateness..
Even tho I wouldn't be posting in a bad way.

 

...to be on his/her will.

 

You should comment on posts that concern YOU, not ME.

 

I'm glad I have some irreplaceable friends. They're.. well (except my parents and brother) the only things in my life that are really irreplaceable
I have lots of replaceable friends as well, but they're not so dear to me. That said, I don't like to make a big deal about who's best friend and such

 

A smilie to *me*?
That was a typing error?



I was posting about me.: )
But I somehow suspected you might think it was about you
Thinking you wouldn't like that..

Anyway , onto general things.I'm probably untrusting of people.
But I found trying to kid myself everyone was "expendible"/ unimportant , just caused more problems than less.

If I've been friendly with/friends with someone , that means I think there's a good amount of good in them.But I think there's bad in everyone too.Ultimately I think thatcancelling a friendship usually causes more harm than good to both sides.It sort of weighs people down.

Did that clear anything up?

 

Sure.

 

( scratches head , still bemused ..)

 

i just realized that i can be very jealous of my friends. more than of lover. and more protective over them than of lover.
My God they are more my lovers more than anyone else. but that`s normal, i have a deep bond with them.

 

I disagree. I insist on a certain quality with friends and if that quality is missing then I'd rather be alone than have a someone just to have a warm body present. I can get attached easily because it's very easy for me to love people, but I can detach also... and even though I'll probably grieve, I'm still willing to let them go. I have no interest in hanging out with a "friend" if they're not a real friend to me and I can't trust them.

On the other hand though... I think my tolerance level and compassion for people has been increasing recently, so I'm sure that'll have an impact on my relationships.

 

Yeah I agree with you on that.One utter maniac I knew ( really a friend of a work colleague) tried to stab me in the face with a beer glass.
Suffice to say , I do not meet up with him for "polite social discourse" these days.

Sometimes rows tho are about bad communication , initially silly things and stuff and they sort of build up.I try and see the best in people , and know we all have faults.

My comment was more about specific situations.

 

A sense of humor and a little humility are my big things. I'm always cracking jokes, ALWAYS, and when I get a blank stare in response, it drives me crazy, and people who talk about themselves all the time just fucking drive me insane. I'm actually kind of picky. I'll be friends with just about anyone online, but in real life, I only have a handful of people I truly consider friends. I've been fucked over too many times for me to waste my time on someone who's just going to let me down as well.

 

For me... what I really value in a friend:

*sense of humor, definitely!
*trust/loyalty/honesty
*humility
*kindness/compassion
*generosity
*open mind
*unconventional or out of the mainstream
*free spirit!

 

This is what I like in my friends...

 

mmmmmm stuffing!

 

honesty
trust
they are pretty much the main keys

if ur not honest then u can have no trust, u have no trust then theres no friendship

 

thick skin, strong opinions, inability to hold a grudge, loyalty, humor, intelligence, arrogance, forceful personality, honesty.

 

if i get to choose which friend, then my penis:cheers2:

 

I don't expect anything from my friends..
I look for people that have a similar sense of humour to me, and know how to shut up when necessary.