Libra Lady/Aries Man...NEED ADVICE PLEASE!

I am not sure how this whole Forum thing works. I am going to give a brief description of what is going on.
Perfectly 'comfortable' in my current relationship( I said it was complicated). My current guy was born on aug 22, the end of the leo cycle. We are compatable like Leo/Libra but his personality traits seem more Virgo.
Anyway...I randomly meet a guy online. It was insane how we instantly finished eachothers sentences, literally. Hello Aries Man! There's the polarity! We were both a little shocked by the connection and have other commitments but it felt soooo good. I mean, I felt something magical just looking in his eyes(on webcam mind you). Not really my style. He felt the same and expressed himself. He is "more open with me than with anyone else, as weird as that sounds". His feelings are genuine, I know it.

We would email ALL DAY LONG, 90-100 emails in my outbox, back and forth. Not long romantic emails professing our love but showing eachother we care. Fun, funny, good stuff. Little comments that make your heart flutter. Stuff that you only someone who is literally your twin in some sense could understand. We met fairly quicly after our inital online chat. We have had short but meaningful times together, so ARIES!

Our day to day lives and relationships began to interfere with our time able to actually focus on one another. Actually, he pulled away. I was available but cautiously and not overbearing, as I know aries loves the chase.

One evening, he signed on. He was very sad. I could see his face on cam. Told me he and his girlfriend really hashed it out that evening. The libra that I am, talked him through, putting my feelings aside and gave honest advice. We only had a short time to chat and before he signed off, I told him that I really needed to talk to him because I was feeling conflicted. He asked me to write him an email(although cliche, its our main way of communication). I replied with, "You do not want me to do that" and he asked me if I would. I did. I told him I was scared because he was pulling away. It was an emotional night, March 5. Hello Mercury, Hello Retrograde. His reply was very sweet and comforting. He told me that if he is pulling away it is because he senses how much this is troubling me. He stated that he does not want to play with my emotions or heart. It did lack the 'we' factor us libra ladies love to hear but I understand him so well, I dont take it personally.

\We are both in relationships that are dull and wondering, although boring, is stability and security more important than having a deep connection? Are there different kinds of love in relationships? Can my love for my current man become deeper in a sense that it is not a whirlwind but good for me?
I have this other guy, who is fantastic, literally awesome. Loves me to death. Loves who I am as a person, inside and out. Loves my flaws, stands by me.

I am so torn.
I cannot continue this relationship with Aries and wrong the other man in my life but I am fearful to let the connection we have go away. It has already faded and that makes me literally ill. He takes the time to give me updates on what he is doing that evening or whatever. Followed by, I really want to see you soon. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN? Why do you want to see me soon? I have read that it is not a good time to make serious relationship decisions. I also know that once you tell an Aries goodbye, that is it! Its over, no going back. I cannot possibly live like this. I am getting nothing from it except a few shining moments engulfed in days of grief. I am not that needy that I want constant attention but I mean, come on, you gotta throw me a bone once in a while.

He made a comment 2 nights ago while on webcam. He complimented me by saying, "You are so beautiful, I could stare at you on here all night". I thanked him. Then he has to set it off with, "In person, not so much...You know I cant build you up and not tear you down a little" WTF?! I can take a joke but why say something like that when things are so rocky? He then said..."I only say outrageous things like that to you cause I know you can take it" TYPICAL ARIES..testing the waters. Heres where my Libra kicks in, but wait, did he mean that he isnt attracted to me in person and is that why hes fading? I have read it is not good to make serious relationship decisions right now, however, I cannot take this anymore. Also, I cannot let this just fall off naturally, I need closure in order to be able to truly let go. I do not want to push him away forever though and from what I read on Aries, if I break it off, he will go away and never come back.
I am so conflicted it hurts. I have never been the 'other' woman and hold others relationships in high regard, as though it may not seemj that way. I am not a fan of women who do not repsect other women. I feel that as a gender, we should be loyal and respect one another. Stick together kind of thing.
This is literally consuming me.
Can anyone give advice on what to do?

 

I think to continue the relationship with the man you met online is not fair to the man you claim you love. If he is fading away you need to take that as a sign that he may not want the same things as you. I would be upfront with the online guy, if he doesn't want a relationship then I wouldn't continue talking to him. Its not healthy to do that nor is it right. It is kind of like cheating even if you two haven't had sex or anything like that. You two still developed a relationship knowing you were both involved with other people. Does the guy you are with know about the guy online? I don't think you should let yourself be so torn from a guy who isn't being serious with you. Thats just my take on it, I know it may hurt to let him go. Its for the best though. Maybe you should break things off with the current guy to be fair to him. Its not right to be romantically involved with that other guy you met online. I also don't think its wise to meet him, cause you may end up doing something you will regret. Think about whats right and best for yourself.

 

I have similar views. I feel that I have already tainted this current relationship and am in desperate need of a little soul searching.
Thanks so much for taking the time to read/reply.
Have a great day...

 

i just came out of long term libra female/aries male

that was one fucked up relationship


p.s

their sorry asses always come back

p.p.s i think astrology is stupid and rarely accurate in these situations

p.p.p.s never get involved with someone already in a relationship

 

Thank you guys so much for your time...
I ended it yesterday! Sucks, but I feel much less guilty and a whole hell of a lot less conflicted. The connection was craaazy but it was getting tobe a little annoying. His little attitude was sometimes borderline rude. I am a libra, I dont take well to that.

I am going to concentrate on me and the guy who I am currently dating. I am going to go hard and give my whole heart, do it up! If it doesnt work, then at least I will be able to go to bed at night knowing I gave it my all!

 

Here's some advice: forget about astrology. It's for cute entertainment only, it has no basis whatsoever in science or reality.

 

You've had an affair on the guy you were with. You can tell him about it and work through the difficulties, or you can pretend it didn't happen and not tell him....

If you don't tell him, then don't bother saying you are going to give it your all, because you are lying to yourself (and the people you tell this to).

If you choose to tell him and it ends over it, you will have to live with the consequences of your choices, that's life.

And no, it doesn't matter if sex was involved or not.

My 'advice' would be rather aimed at your partner, which would be that you lied to him and cheated on him once, it shows you have the ability to do that, regardless of what you say your feelings for him are. He would be better off getting as far away from you as possible.

As for you respecting other women's relationships and blah blah blah... .BULLSHIT... You can never say that in your life again while being honest.

As for the other guy... here's a simple test as to whether or not he would be a viable person to choose to be with (if you werent cheating on your current partner)... He was cheating on his wife/current partner... he will do the same to the next person he is with.

I've never understood people who do stupid shit like this.... It doesn't 'just happen' you chose to allow it to, as he did... you are both dishonest people...

enjoy your life... it is what you make it....

 

Wow, I had no idea people actually took astrology seriously... Good stuff. Maybe you should not let when a person is born during the year decide your outlook on them.

 

I'm an Aries, and all I can say is that the one Libra I've ever been with was the best sex I ever had.