Does anyone else feel this way? Love seems to be my only passion in life. I'm in school but I've never felt it was my passion. I have hobbies but never felt like they were my passion. The only time I ever really feel fulfilled is when I have someone to love and love me back. But this is much more difficult than I'd ever expected. After my first GF of almost 5 years I'm realizing that I lost something really really special. I've met a girl since but my over developed romantic side drove her away. I think it freaks most girls out. I like to call everyday, bring them food when they're sick, write about them, take them out, and encourage them to talk to me about anything they're feeling. But I think that I am their biggest problem. Life just seems to lose all color when you're alone. It's relaxing but overall just very empty. I find myself having to struggle to just get out of bed in the morning and go to class or work. I'm happy when I'm with someone but feel I should find happyness on my own but I'm not sure if I can. I just totally miss my ex. We were engaged but she came out as a lesbian shortly afterwards. I still see her almost everyday and she calls me "buddy" now. She just got her first girlfriend whom she's really happy with. I'm glad for her but I can't get used to this. Do I just need to chill and be by myself for a while or should I find someone else? Thanks everyone, I needed to vent.
hahaha your girlfriend of 5 years turned into a lesbian!! jesus you have more problems than you know man. I am sorry man, but you may need some help for real.
A worthy ambition? Love was my only ambition and I am now married w/ a new baby. It's a very worthy one
I don't think you have a problem. Yah, you should always "just be yourself", but if what you describe is it, then it is. And just as an aside ... you should probably never reveal in these forums that a former girlfriend turned lesbian. There's bound to be some pubescent joker who can't resist the urge to make sophomoric comments in the deluded belief that it's funny.
I feel that love is my main ambition as well. My ex of whom i dated for two years, broke up with me because he said he wanted to be alone, and it crushed me. I wish i could still love him, but its not what he wants so i try to deal with it and move on.. but all im thinking about it being in love again and how blissful it is and how much more i appriciate life while intoxicated by passion::::
I laughed at first about your x turning lesbian. Truth be known this could happen to any guy. Secondly, I second being a man with love as a driven aspect of my life. I met a girl of here who is amazing. I figured id never find someone who listens to everything i say. I forsure can add that the problem is maybe you need to see girls from other areas. The ones from where i live are all the same. Im about to start a relationship with this girl the way i allways dreamed because she likes my ambition.
besides the whole breakup thing i relate, except i have a few girls i love and that love me, and it makes for some wild times brother! you lady.. are beautiful
To everyone who thinks a girlfriend/boyfriend turning gay is funny imagine this: With tears in her eyes she looks at me and tells me she loves me so much. She tells me I was the perfect boyfriend. She tells me she tried for almost 5 years to be happy with me when she knew almost the whole time she couldn't. As I try to find the words to say to her she slips the engagement ring off her finger and gives it back to me. The only image in my head is the night I gave it her and asked her to marry me. We were on the docks near Navy Pier in downtown Chicago on a warm spring night. I remember her eyes lighting up as she jumped into my arms. It was moments like that when time stood still and every sense in my body was just vibrating. And then I snap back to reality and see myself holding that ring knowing it will never be on her finger again. I will never kiss her again. I will never know what it will be like to spend my life with her, in love until I die. And even though she knows I was perfect for her, always loved her, and never mistreated her she understands that she'll never be happy with a guy even if it's the perfect one. I still see her almost every other day. She has a girlfriend now. I often sit and talk to her about her girlfriend and how much fun they have together knowing I never made her happy like that. I surpress every bit of resentment and bitterness because I know she's happy now and I still love her. I'm still in love with her and I always will be. I want her to be happy even if I'm not the one who will make her be. I still dream about her. I dream we're still together and I'm the one making her happy. I dream we're making love and she's just as into it as I always was. And then I wake up alone and realize it was just a dream and those days are gone forever. Pretty funny, right?
While I understand where you're coming from here, this kind of behavior drives most women away--they'll see it as clingy. If you make yourself too available, are too eager to please her, and generally act like her therapist, she'll lose her attraction for you, even if she can't exactly put her finger on why. A little romance is okay--calling every day is not. The tricky part is, many guys seem to be all or nothing. They're either TOO excited, or they could care less. And interestingly enough, the guys who act like they could care less are far more likely to retain a woman's interest by presenting a challenge. You don't have to be a dick, but you have to make her work a little bit.
If i may make a third party observation: I think especially when younger most guys dont get how scary it is for some girls living in a world where half the population is bigger than them, especially if they are hot. So the security thing is a far bigger influence in girls than guys. Not so much that you have to treat them bad, but you have to be able to treat everyone else bad. Thats is a guy that looks like he can kick every other guys ass usually has a higher ranking, and they arent usually the guy that likes to sit around and quote poetry. In part why they dont care so much about looks as guys do, if you are ugly and average size, well as a guy your screwed, if your 6"5 and ugly makes you scary, well then they usually get more female attention than a pretty boy thats 6"5
Why do people see situations like this as an "either, or" decision. If you and your ex still love each other, why not look at nontraditional relationship options. If I had ever tried to limit my lady from seeking girlfriends, or other man friends for that matter, we would not have lasted a year. People grow and change over time...it is not unreasonable to explore options that can allow for growth without caging your loves. i doubt that in 20 years, your ex will still think of herself as exclusively lesbian...sounds pretty bi to me...just swinging the other way for a while...
