I have never had a boyfriend.

I know i'm only 16. But almost all of my friends pretty much talk of nothing else except their boyfriends/who their dating/ who they're flirting with etc.
I don't really flirt with guys, maybe I just don't know how?

But I feel like I should've had a boyfriend by now.

 

Life is long. No need to rush into things. You sound OK as is.

 

Don't worry about it. It will come.

Do you think your friends having no interests outside of their boyfriends is a sign of good health or the opposite?

 

Flirting is easier than it sounds. Flirting is just letting the other person know your interested without coming out and saying it.

 

i agree with the others, it will come don't worry. i just started dating guys when i was 16 or so.

 

I didn't start dating till I was 18 and yes, I was worried it would "never happen" too. Don't fret. If you want more action though, you'll have to take action. Start talking to boys you find attractive. Flirt but don't come on too hard. This can be exciting but it can also lead to rejection -- but that's the price you pay for playing the field.

 

I didnt start dating until 17. Hey if your maybe looking into it...go make it happen!

 

Thanks everyone

 

don't be so self centered- people are living their lives just like you- being scared to talk to regulation hotties (when they may be checkin you out)/ looking in teh mirror for hours because your concerned about a smudge/ not joining social organizations or movements because of fear of rejection or fear itself. your meant to flourish and show the world your beauty.. you know the real deal like inner beauty. can ya dig it? don't let it come to you- either avoid it and not get into premature bullshit and watch other ppl do dumb peer pressured movements of youth, or go for it and meet that guy you want to share the world with. hopefully this doesn't sound like an ass, but helps out a little.. much love!

 

You couldn't convince me of it then, but starting a tad late (17, on my way to becoming 18, which isn't even all that late, really) was one of the best things for me.
You don't want one of those teen relationships that is all about sex and melodrama and SAYING you're in love.

There's no such thing as starting too late if you start with the right person.

 

The problem is not of having a boyfriend or not, but it's of fiding a good one.
My boyfriend is 20 and I was his first girlfriend, he wanted to wait for the right girl, he didn't want to go out with people just for the sake of it, he wanted to be only with the person he really loves.

 

I've never had a boyfriend either.

Don't hunt.

People tend to find each other like charged particles of electricity. Often by mere chance.



x

 

One thing I've learned in my life is...don't expect a certain outcome. No matter how well we plan for something an unexpected result CAN ALWAYS hit. If you can't find anyone until your dying days, then so what?! A relationship is not something to use to value your existence. If you find someone: great! If not: don't worry. Just live to make yourself happy. You cannot depend on anyone except yourself and that's the truth. Don't worry yourself, concentrate on establishing your place in the world career-wise and keep positive.

p.s.
Most teenagers are self-absorbed, sad freaks who do nothing but talk about the most childish bullshit ALL DAY LONG... "oh! Rolanda said, that Tisha said, that Brittany said, that Julie said that Brian likes Michelle!!!" and etc. GET OVER YOURSELVES TEENAGERS.

 

Do you really want one, because it's not that great.

 

I've never had an actual important "girlfriend" before...don't sweat it.

 

You are 16, does it matter? Go do stupid shit and learn from your mistakes. Nothing you do now will matter in 3 years.

 

I felt exactly the same way as you most of the time I was sixteen, plus feeling shy and awkward and unconfident and not particularly attractive, but a week and a day before I turned seventeen I met someone, felt totally relaxed with him and apparently, without being aware of it, flirted heavily with him. If you like someone and get on with them then flirting comes naturally. I guess an important thing when flirting is not stopping yourself showing that you enjoy talking to him and find him interesting, so if you can do that (as opposed to actively trying to show you find him interesting) you'll be fine.

 

Don't start dating. It kind of sucks unless you're fucking tbh. I've been dating the same girl for about a year and seven months I think. I wanna break it off with her so bad but she cry's like a baby so it's hard as fuck. Don't get in my situation. It BLOWS.

 

I'm 15 and I've never had a boyfriend or a first kiss. I know it sucks when friends talk about boys in front of you...and I get the whole "I don't know how to flirt" thing. I also feel I'm late with dating but I think it's just one huge wad of pressure. Those girls usually go through boyfriends every week anyway. Just keep believing, it'll happen. Peace and love.

 

Practice flirting online... lol.
But seriously usually that comes naturally when you feel that attraction towards someone or the feeling/tension that comes.

It all comes naturally, I had some self esteem issues before because I never really went on important dates with anyone untill late 16. Same with the kiss thing... my first kiss was at a party, and thank god everyone I've kissed since then said I'm really good