i think i was born gay, and have tried changing. i dont know what to do and have 4 hetrosexual brothers and dad who are all homophobic, what should i do? i havnt told anyone
I have been where you are. When I first started coming out of the closet, I only informed the women of my family because I instinctively knew that they would be fine with my sexuality. I waited until I was in college before I informed my homophobic father--good thing, too, because he disowned me and I was forbidden from going back home. At least I was an adult, and had friends to help me. If you feel that they would not accept your sexuality, wait until you are independent before you come out of the closet.
I have older brothers and a homophobic father also. It can be a pain in the arse. What you should do is embrace it, and eventually tell them. This is you, and unless you would rather live a lie it is the right thing to do. It's just a question of when and how, and I am sure you know the answer to that better than anybody else. All I will say is it should be in your own time, and does not have to be rushed. I say this from experience, as I am still closeted to the males in my family unfortunately. You cannot change who you are, and shouldn't have to. Take the weight off of your shoulders and enjoy yourself with it.
