There are times I am so tempted to snoop through my significant others' things (phones, journals, photos) but refrain. I once accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's journal not knowing what it was. I read a page of it before realizing it and put it away. The page i read was somewhat heart-breaking for me, as it involved a former girlfriend of his and his current strong feelings for her. I didn't read further though the curiosity was KILLING me. Just last night I found it again in his absence and was dying to read more but didn't. I personally am a firm believer that ignorance is bliss and would rather not know some things. I also believe that if he wants to tell me something, he will. But is that always the case do you think? What would you do in this situation? Or does anyone have any stories?
Every time I've been snooped they found shit they never wanted to, and it ended up bad. I limit the information I give to people, and don't snoop because I know people hide behind their masks. An ex used to monitor my e-mails. What a creep.
I snooped and found out my boyfriend was cheating on me so I dont know. I dont really like snooping and it's never been my thing but I randomly did the other night and I actually found out something I should know. And yeah, I believe ignorance is bliss too, but not if your getting hurt.
I think snoopiing on purpose is bad so well done for resisting, I think that's so cool. If you were concerned about what you read regarding his ex, you could tell him how you read a page before realising what it was and that you're very sorry, but you were concerned about what you read. But then, I suppose you'd have to be ready for him to get mad at you, so I don't know. It's just an idea
doubt are trust issues are the biggest reasons for snooping. sometimes it just happens, and you find something revealing that may or may not hurt you. while i was living with my ex, i used his laptop and found a saved convo with one of his ex's asking to hook up and whatnot. i totally broke down. when he came home i was so close to leaving but he tricked me into believing every lie he ever told me i guess if youre willing to snoop, be willing to waste your time, or get stabbed in the heart.
it depends i do it mainly couse she hide the sweets form me (pain in the ass lol i love her) so i go ruting through every thing. if u have a feeling or reasonable couse then go for it but be descreat my gf did it to me she looked through my computer and found all my porn from when i was younger that i forgot about ) who knew that 80 gigs of porn would make her mad lol but i respect her wishes to feel secure about our relationship and yes i was pissed. i never cheated or had thoughts of it. i think ppl who do are creeps
Snooping through one's things is pretty crappy thing to do... Just because you are in a relationship with them doesn't give you the right to go through their things.. Sorry, I just get annoyed when people go through other people's things... I had someone go through my stuff and it made me feel really violated, especially when they went through my journals... In your situation I wouldn't have read through someone else's things and since you did I would leave it alone and not worry about it, he is with you isn't he, how would you feel if you wrote your heart out onto paper and had someone go through it and read it... Just my opinion.. Snooping is bad...
I think text messages and a personal journal are kind of different subjects. A text message or conversation is more direct, and blatantly doing something wrong to your loved one, but expressing some feelings in a journal is a little different, seeing as those are deep personal thoughts that you usually keep in there because they are thoughts you wouldn't tell anyone or act on.
i think you should always snoop it lets you really know who your dealing with...you never know what someone is hiding because they probably wont tell you. So you can take anything bad you find out and deal with it..Its better to know what and who you are in a relationship with then you can decide to stay or go..
i fucking hate it when my mother goes through my shit! fuck ! i think no one should go through anyones things! respect privacy bitches!
People tend to find whatever they are looking for, so if you don't trust him, you will find things that make you more suspicious. Journals are often used for venting, which means that his points may be overstated. Stay the hell out of there.
From personal expiriance, it's best not to snoop. If you mistrust him that must you shouldn't be with him..... snooping cause me more problems, heartache and mistrust then what is was worth over things that really weren't that deep... because of the snooping everything fell apart... I became very depressed, started drinking heavily, ruined my relationship and now my life is in one of the most confusing and frustrating situations wich all started out by snooping, snooping, snooping and more snooping. DON'T DO IT. :toetap05: You should ask him out right and explain that you accidently ran accross what you did and you had questions about it.
well I would snoop for sure, but thats the kind of person I am. Im not very trusting, and if your gut tells you to snoop, then there might be a reason why. I'd do it but I'd make damn sure I wasn't caught, because if he catches you, and there's nothing to justify you'r snooping, then you're screwed and it can damage the relationship. but I'd go ahead and do it and not get caught, like someone else says, it'll let you know who you're really dealing with. I went thru my bf's house and looked in drawers, and closets and whatever while he was at work. Perfect time to do it if you're going to.
your relationship is screwed long before he catches you snooping.... the fact that YOU ARE snooping says that the relationship isnt doing to well to start with... if you have to snoop then you shouldnt be in the relationship at all edit: i'd like to add, that I say all of this based on experience....I snooped in my last relationship and found out a lot i really didnt want to know but already knew deep down....in retrospect i didnt trust him long before i snooped and should've just bailed then instead of opening up another can of worms.... just sayin
I AGREE! I knew better after I found out what I did after the first few months I should have left, instead I became more curious, and more distrusting, now we have a child together and it's not so easy to walk out.... snooping only made it worse, and I lost a good friendship on top of it. I do have a beautiful baby boy from it all, so I can't complain too much.
