Deeper Connections (consciousness, spirit, etc.)

I've been doing research on ways to strengthen the connection i share with my companion. But i've been shooting in the dark and figured someone out there can help me find a place to begin searching for the answers i am so passionate in finding. I'm not even sure what to call this experience except a form of shared consciousness.

We both agreed that at this time sex is not the way to explore the realm of consciousness we both experience together. We've tried it and it created a connection, an energy, that was untamed and could not be contained by either of us, neither individually nor collectively.

Other than eating some psychedelics (which i'm sure we'll explore that at a later time), what philosophies give insight into a deeper form of connection? We've opened some doors naturally, sometimes when we hold each other close it feels like our raw energies are exposed and flow freely between each other. We want to explore this realm more, so i have begun searching and now ask for guidance towards a better understanding of this connection.

 

JUST TALK! About anything, everything. Get to know each other better than anyone else ever could. Be completely yourself. Don't put on airs or change your views to match theirs, but dont' argue with theirs. State your disagreemetns (if there are), and let it be done.
Be calm, just talk!! It really works, I swear.

 

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huh... wasn't expecting that simple of an answer. I like it though. Reading your response is very reassuring. I'm sitting here thinking about group meditation, shakra balancing or some sort of higher level of consciousness that we can both share... but i think i was thinking too much. Touching intellects through talking is where that first spark came from.

Thank you for the grounding, this idea really had me spinning.

 

As a complementary tool to talking, just sit - together. And I don't mean sit with the intention of meditating or cleansing chakras or whatever - I just mean sit with the purpose of just sitting together. Talk until neither of you has anything to say, then sit in silence knowing that it can say just as much, if not more.

 

I'd suggest isolating yourselves somewhere deep in nature for a period of time. I believe that we develop deeper connections with each other while not consciously trying. Go for walks in the woods, camp out on the beach for a few days. Go somewhere where you will both be each others focus.

Experience things that you both never thought you would do, some that would terrify the crap out of you both. Then something that makes you both extremely happy.

I believe to become closer to another person, you almost have to go into a meditative state, where it goes beyond words and your completely within the present moment.

Also, maybe facing one of each others fears and over coming them together.

 

Yes, a simple answer and so incredibly true.
Truthful communication without pretext will only deepen every other facet of the relationship.

It may be awkward to initiate, but once started- it is liberating!

 

Good- no, GREAT advice... It kinda blows my mind that a 16 year old would have a firmer grasp on what works than many folks my age... If you're honest and open- and give of yourself- and not try to win a prize by presenting yourself as something you're not then the relationship will stand a better chance of enduring.

I've been down both routes and open honest communication will either bring incredible rewards or avoid pain and heartbreak from investing emotional energy in something that's fated to not work.

 

I definitely endorse this. Silence (coupled with presence) together is one of the most powerful bonding experiences I've had.