i've had this on/off relationship with a woman, let's call her Ms. X. basically this relationship has been on/off for the past 3 or so years. we haven't shared anything physical but have been very emotional, spiritual. and she has had a bf for the past 2 years or so and recently ms. x and i grew close again. she says she finds it hard bcoz she really likes her bf but loves the idea of me. any clue as to what the F that means? perhaps i should've posted this in the women's forum.
Sounds like some crazy woman BS to me. Maybe she's not attracted to you like that. Have you ever made a move when she was single? It could just be that she really likes you but she likes her boyfriend too and doesn't want to leave him. "Liking the idea of you" honestly sounds like some crazy open ended bullshit to replace what she really means. That's just me, though.
i think ur right about it replacing what she really means. nah i never made a move, i was chasing this other girl at the time. in hindsight i should've given it a go.
yeh this guy atm is a bit of a douche. im fine being the friend, it would be nice to find out what these feelings are she has for me, cause she is a good looker and i wouldn't mind going further.
You are probably giving her everything she should be getting from her boyfriend, other than sex. And she gets it all without even having to date you. You are in a losing situation if you want more out of your relationship with her, I suggest you stop being the friend and start being a potential boyfriend.
She said she only 'liked' her boyfriend, whilst loved the idea of yourself. To me it sounds like she wants her cake and to eat it too. Basically her relationship may have gone a bit stagnant, but instead of either sorting it or getting out of there, she is simply using you. She doesn't want to break it off incase she realises the mistake she may have made. End of,she shouldn't be getting that comfortable with you and taken all the good energy home to another man. If you want to be an ego filler, then fine- but you probably deserve more than that. Something similar happened to me once before, so there at my ten cents.
she thinks about you when she is having sex with her boyfriend. you should be out there rocking her world.
thanks for the all the advice. i might start distancing myself from her now. if i work up the dutch courage ill make a move.
yea, just don't be a dick about it, or become super assholish to make up for all the time you spent being the opposite. gotta be careful now that you are already invested in the situation, you know?
Walk on. She will give you nothing but trouble. Imagine if she was with YOU for two years and liked the idea of some other guy. Thats exactly what she's doing and exactly who she is. Find a woman who likes the idea of you well enough to make you her number 1.
Seek greener pastures. This is loser talk. If you want something, take immediate action to achieve it.
