His low libido: due to stress or simply gay?

Post cleared for personal reasons – thank you to those who took the time to read it and reply

 

Confront the issue by asking him direct questions.
Maybe he's just a little scared and needs coaxing into these exchanges of affection.
Make sure you let him know about your desires I'm sure he'd follow right along.

 

Libido can definitely be effected by stress... how old is he?

 

Talk to him. Maybe he is finding it hard to be in an intimate relationship with you because he has been your friend for a decade.. Perhaps the change in focus is taking him some time to get used to. Maybe before he found it easier with you because you didn't want anything from him more than friendship.. now, the focus has shifted to the emotional and physical side of the relationship which is totally new...
Try talking, honestly and openly..
Hope it works out ok for ya.

 

The guy is working 14 hr days, 6 days a week.

I don't know if he's gay.
I don't know if he has a low libido.
I do know that he's tired.

 

Thank you ALL for your quick reply!
First, I have to apologize for the use of the word ‘libido’… it wasn’t the best choice of words as in truth I am only referring to the small gestures such as holding hands or a kiss, not actual sex, but affection. And yes, Mike, he is… and I really wish I could make things easier for him…

WELL… in fact one way I try to help out is by NOT confronting him on this matter right now. After all: It is so early into our dating. IF should the problem persist for too long, then definitely I will openly discuss it with him.

And maybe you’re right – he might be scared. It didn’t occur to me that maybe while I am comfortable, having knowing him for so long and find that affection and expressing myself comes easily, then this might not be the case with him and he is feeling awkward. I never thought the shift from friendship to dating would be weird, so that was a good point.

As for now, no one can give an answer and only time will tell where this will go… and time and space is what I’ll be giving him for the time being. That and just try and be patient and a good friend as opposed to a needy whiny girlfriend.

At least for a while.

AGAIN, Thank you all for your time

 

MAYBE THE PROBLEM IS NOT HIM MAYBE U ARE JUST UGLY HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I'm sorry that was mean

 

suck my kiss

 

A low libido doesn't mean he's gay. It could be stress, or other factors.