wants to put thread around all of my dreads, like ive done with a few of them. she thinks itll help them to look neater, tidier and more decent. which it will, but if i wanted that then i coulda just used wax!! she doesnt see the point that wax is bad.. shes still convinced that my old (blonde) dreads were the best lot ive had, and shes convinced that i should start waxing these ones. HMMPH. sometimes i actually wanna smack her head against a wall, and hope that her head will clear. but i wanna do that do a few people, so ya know.. oh oh oh and she doesnt understand how my backcombed fuzzlocks are ganna become dreads. ive said itll take around 5-6 months for any noticeable change, and shes like 'why do it if its not instant?' gah. *gives up* iggy:
mine are open minded to the concept of having neon red hair, or neon blue, and my mom is surprised that im 20 and still dont have my ears pierced.. its just the dreads she dont like. (dads fine with them, if im happy, he's happy)
it seems like there's a natural gene in most parents that says I can't be open minded, I told my family a coupld days ago about my plan to get dreads and they were like why so you can look all dirty an' copy the black people? Now where the hell does that come from??
hahaha i already have she used to wear it really short.. a number 2 i think it was on the back, and i pretty much forced her to grow it out, and now its long and UBER curly =D she hated it at first but now she likeys, but i always play with the curls.. she dont like that. i have mentioned once or twice that its perfect length for dreads..
My mom cuts her hair really short too I told her I would give her a hundred dollars to grow it out (back when I had a hundred dollars I could blow) and now she's going to cut it off. She had the most beautiful long curly auburn hair(well from the pictures I've seen) she said my hair would look the same if I cut it all off to like 2 inches and then let it grow back without effin with it. Mom use to give me hell about my dreads till I got my tattoo now she's decided to hate on the tat and love on the dreads.
simply tell your mom this: mom, if i wanted intent and to use wax i might as well get a mohawk and glue it into liberty spikes with rubber cement dreads are not meant to be instant, or full of gunk that only makes them dirty.. dreads are the natural state of hair, and hair thats been unatural a long time takes awhile to return to its natural state.. and they must be kept clean to do so properly i think you only want me to wax so they will get gross again and i'll want to cut them, byt this time i intend to do it right keep them from becomming gross so i can have them a good long time.
well hey at least she sounds okay with you having dreads unlike some folks on here. She just wants them to look nice on you. Nothing wrong with that...she's a mom. Its our job to always be poking our heads into your bussiness! =]
SE - you think i havent tried that? haha. ive done the whole 'its how hair is meant to be' and ive told her repeatedly that they dont just 'happen' mandy - darn mothers *shakes fist* =] i know she hates them, she prefers my long curly shiny hair.. which i always hated..
My mum has started liking mine, since I've really found myself because of them xD I went home with my labret pierced and she said 'yea goes with your whole look' and I was like :O She'd hate my other piercings (sadly the good ones didn't like me ) But I think now she knows I'm happy with them she's happy I'm sure your mum will come around once she sees the progress I just blame it on 'they don't understaaaanndddd' ^^
oh no she wont come round. this is the third time remember.. she thinks i was happier with normal hair..
Yah, make it clear that you are satisfied with your decision and Nothing or No one can affect your decision for having them. In order for that to be true you have to believe it. Bigg up.
a lil story for years and years i never had a single convo with my mom that didnt involve her suggestinmg i cut mine id see her and right away shed make snipping gestures with her fingers or lift up dread looking at it disaprovingly over and over id hear how embarrassed they were to be seen with me and how i should hoide em when i was out with them.. then matybe 4 years asgo, out atthe mall christmass shopping an old lady in her 80's or so comes up and says like oh wow i have never seen such beautiful hair can i touch it my mom just stood there shocked not knowing what to do..suddenly having to face the fact that not everyone thought they were ugly and gross. later that year at a family reuinion, several old aunts, from very conservative backgrounds (1 maybe even was a nun i think i forget) all were raving about how much they admired my dreads. this changed everything..my mom hasnt said a word since. bassicly, they arent so worried abnout how u look, as tgey are how yoir looks reflect on them as parents.. but the momment they see others admiring you, thats when the attitude will change it mat take some time thouigh
My mom has short hair and when I was little she would cut my hair really short (which traumatized me) LOL. Now my hair is down past my belly button. LOL My mom likes dreads. Just not on her daughters head. LOL. I told her I was going to just let my hair be and she said if I do she will kick me out. Doesn't matter now I moved out. Not because of that but because it wasn't a healthy environment for me to live in. I love my mom and I can understand her concern but I am an adult and I will do what I please as long as I am not hurting myself or any other living being. You are lucky that your mom is a little more excepting then most
gahhhh. she really wont suddenly realise that theyre awesome. she knows her work collegues (sp?) love them, and she knows i love them, but just doesnt. never has. never will.
