i'm scared. yesterday i sent an e-mail to my boyfriend. saying everything i'm feeling about our relationship. i didn't say the words, but i kinda broke up with him. that's what i wanted, but i feel so insecure right now. i don't know what to do. i'm sick, i feel like throwing up. i can't focus in one thing straight. what i need is words from a friend. even if you're not. i just need to feel safe. but i don't know if that's possible. thank you, Louise.
what do you mean you feel insecure right now? hmmm You have to tell him the relationship is over, due to what was said in your mail. Make It Clear. Allow for him some understanding too.
What I mean is: I don't know for sure if this is the right thing to do. I'm confused. I don't see this relationship going anywhere. But I'm afraid of the dark. I don't know what's gonna happen after. I know I care about him, but I also know it's almost over.
Though I'm afraid I'm gonna miss him. And I don't want to break up and then keep calling him to say it was a bad idea. I know if I did, he might 'accept' me back, but I don't want this.
oh ok didnt c that, if u meant it u did the right thing, tell him what u just said its hard 2 let go the familiar but if its time u have 2 ull never move forward if u don't
I know how you feel. I had the same worries before I broke up with my boyfriend not too long ago. I was afraid I was doing the wrong thing, that he would be so hurt, and that I would miss him too much to be able to do it. But if you are having doubts about the relationship, and you feel that you need to do it, then leave him. It will be hard and you will miss him a lot. It will take time to get over him, but YOU WILL get over him. Don't do like I did and keep breaking up and getting back together, that just leads to a lot of confusion and resentment. If you do feel like you want him back after you break up with him, then just give it more time before you jump back in the relationship. Give your feelings time to adjust. You do have to make it clear why you are breaking up with him. You can't send an email where you "kind of" broke up with him. Maybe you should call him.
I know. And my priority now is to move forward. I wanted to be with him and be able to do that, but he won't. He's happy with the calm and secure life of his. But I'm not. I want adventure, I want to madly fall in love again, I need action. I need friends. I feel I don't have one, not even one right now. I know I can count on them, but we don't often see each other and that's not the same thing. I need a best friend. I need to live! I'm living his life and forgot about mine.
The thing is, I can't talk. I tried. But I just can't. It's too hard for me. I've troubles 'cause of this. My mother wanted me to see a psychologist. But I don't feel comfortable. I know I need to work this out. But I can't, I wish I could.
I know I'm disagreeing with almost everything you say. And I'm sorry. I really don't know what to do, just know what I'm feeling. Maybe this should be dropped as coldcase at the moment.
nah i understand, it can be quite tough, good luck to ya, pm me if u need more advice or just to vent
first thing you gotta do is see him face to face, hiding behind an email, or a telephone even is definatly no good
well, i like him a lot. so, i decided i'm gonna wait. see if he's up for a change. if he's not, then i'm not gonna keep hurting myself. he's really nice these last days, but i don't know if he's just insecure 'cause he almost "lost" me or if he took what i said seriously and he's trying to change. it's not fair that i'm the only one yielding in this relationship. love, Louise.
